Humiliation – a mini master class with Goddess Kayla

It’s probably the most highly misunderstood aspect of cuckolding – humiliation. Just the word conjures up all sorts of images in our mind of cruelty, degradation, and harm. But what is it exactly? What does it look like in the context of a loving cuckolding relationship? Does a woman have to be mean to do this for her partner? What are some simple ways to start this art of the tease? Goddess Kayla is here to give you a mini master class on humiliation. This episode is for couples, women, and anyone else who is interested in the art of humiliation within a loving relationship.

Links:
Kayla – https://phonesexdomme.vip/
Kayla’s list – ideas to humiliate your partner
Kayla on Twitter https://twitter.com/HeyMissKayla
Hotwife Palooza 2 – https://hotwifepalooza.com/
The Helpful Cuck Tier on Patreon – https://www.patreon.com/VenusCuckoldress
The MoN App – https://themonapp.com/
Maison De Neige Couture


NEW!!Cuckolding Courses by Venus – https://cuckoldingcourses.com/
Venus Connections – matchmaking for loving cuckolding relationships
ASN Magazine – Venus feature: When the lifestyle turns terrifying
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Merch! – yeah you read that right! Now you can get Venus/Cuckolding inspired merch!
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Smashing the cuck stereotype

When it comes to stereotypes in the cuckolding lifestyle, many people think of cucks as weak, beta, submissive, sissies who are degraded and disrespected, and while there is a wide spectrum when it comes to cuckolding, this episode Confident Cuck joins Venus to explore how different that stereotype likely is for real life cuckolding relationships. Be prepared to learn a few things and think a little differently – it’s controversial for sure but that’s what you get when you set out to smash the cuck stereotype!

Links
Confident Cuck:
Blog – https://confidentcuck.wordpress.com/
Twitter – https://twitter.com/ConfidentCuck

Hotwife Palooza 2 – https://hotwifepalooza.com/
The Helpful Cuck Tier on Patreon – https://www.patreon.com/VenusCuckoldress
The MoN App – https://themonapp.com/


NEW!!Cuckolding Courses by Venus – https://cuckoldingcourses.com/
Venus Connections – matchmaking for loving cuckolding relationships
ASN Magazine – Venus feature: When the lifestyle turns terrifying
Full Swap Radio – listen to Venus every Tuesday at 5pm and 11pm Central Time
Merch! – yeah you read that right! Now you can get Venus/Cuckolding inspired merch!
Submit a question for the show
Become a Patreon supporter – support the podcast and get lots of perks! Including the Venus Vault!
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Safety: When the lifestyle turns terrifying

By Venus Cuckoldress

This article was originally published in ASN Lifestyle Magazine

I think most people who begin a journey into a lifestyle that is new and fun and exciting, have a predictable sense of wonder, intrigue, and naivety. I definitely felt all of those things when I was first introduced to a cuckolding relationship – a relationship dynamic that up until then, I knew nothing about. There were so many amazing parts of being catapulted into the sexiest fantasies I had ever come across, and if I could go back in time I would change only a few things – but those few things are really fucking important. Safety is one of them.

6 years ago I was writing a blog about finding this kind of relationship and not many people knew who I was. I was just writing for the sake of sharing my story with other women and I didn’t realize that so many people would start reading it. Back then I didn’t think much of sharing face pics, videos, whatever. Things have changed since then. Now that I produce and host a popular podcast as well, many more people know who I am – at least they know the “Venus”…not my real name or what I look like. Now I wish I was more careful about maintaining anonymity back then. I have to always be careful now not to show my face or reveal much information about my personal life because I have to worry about stalkers and incels (google it) who work together to track down and harm women who speak openly about female sexual empowerment. 

A few years ago I somehow inherited a psycho stalker from Reddit (so many creeps on there) and he (or them) went to great lengths to brutally harass me with vulgar and hateful rhetoric. They tried all sorts of things to try to get information about me and to make up stories about me on Reddit and they succeeded to some degree. The calls and messages were truly disturbing. That lasted about a year and while it’s a relief that they’ve left me alone now, unfortunately they’ve moved on to harassing other women in this lifestyle. 

I also am more careful about meeting men now than I was before. I mean, as a woman we are wary our whole lives of meeting men alone, but now it’s way more of a significant worry for me. Unfortunately I learned the hard way that no matter what, ALWAYS trust your gut feeling and act on it right away. 

I already had a bad feeling about the guy I was supposed to meet up with one night but I ignored it. I was more worried about seeming like a jerk if I canceled at the last minute, so even though I felt like something was off but couldn’t quite put words to it, I still went. I tried to push that uneasy feeling aside but it was there the entire time I was with him in his apartment. 

Everything seemed to be okay until he told me I wasn’t going to be leaving. He had managed to kick my phone under the bed without me knowing so when I was panicking I couldn’t find it. It was probably only about 10 minutes that he was able to hold me against my will but it seemed like forever. It wasn’t until I was eventually able to find my phone and call the police that he let me go and I ran for my life. I will never forget the dispatcher on the phone telling me clearly where to go and how to hide. Her calm and concerned voice was what I needed at that moment. I remember my heart beating so fast and so loud and my whole body was shaking so much. It was terrifying and traumatizing.  

Being single also makes me vulnerable to threats to my safety. This one part is something that continues to this day but I’ve learned how to try to avoid it and if it happens, I don’t let it upset me as much. What I mean by that is being a single woman in the cuckolding lifestyle, you attract a lot of single men who are very keen to talk to you (there are way more men than women looking for a cuckolding relationship). Whether you want it or not, your inbox is always flooded. You’d think that makes dating so much easier right? So many choices right? It really isn’t. 

Let me explain… Just like vanilla dating, you meet someone and if you’re not feeling it then you just say hey I think you’re great but you’re just not what I’m looking for. Basic polite rejection right? It’s the same in the cuckolding lifestyle, however, because you’re filtering through so many guys and they are so desperate to find a woman, even though 90% of the guys you politely reject will be cool with it, there will be 10% who will not. And those 10% will try to make your life a living hell. They are the ones who will turn into stalkers and harassers and once you’ve come across a few of them, it really makes you not even want to talk to guys online anymore because you’re scared of how they might react. And that’s what I’ve done for a long time now – try to avoid them altogether by not dating at all. 

Just a couple of days ago someone messaged me through a contact form on my matchmaking service (which is ultra safe for women) and he seemed creepy from the get-go and even asked me if I was available to date him. I didn’t respond. And this is what transpired over the next several days:

  1. I want this so much, and have wantd to be cuckolded for many years…Are YOU available?? Lol…
  2. i was actually being serious :)….I mean, i am not a bad looking guy at all, im very fun, smart, down to earth, and VERY submissive, but not faggy or feminine acting in public….I think you could probably do worse, why not give me a chance Goddess?
  3. your an idiot, thanks for ignoring me because you didnt know how to respond..
  4. ok, well since your ignorant ass cant take out a few seconds to respond, go fuck yourself…..Your nothing but a scammer, a shammer, and a fucking role playing gold digging, greedy ass mother fucker who justs mens money, but has NOOOOOOOOOO intention of ever making it real in ANY WAY WHATSOVER….you want hundreds, and thousands of dollars from a  single guy, and offer NOTHING in return except a few role playing bullshit videos that were made for the “masses>> go fuck yourself…fake

What’s most worrisome about what happened is not only what he wrote, but that these messages came in separately over several days. This means he had been perseverating on being rejected and wasn’t going to let it go. Be careful of men like him. These are the types who are dangerous. 

I’ve thought a lot about safety in the last while and wondered how do we make this lifestyle safer for coupled women and single women? Realistically we can’t get anywhere near solutions until we have awareness of the issue in this lifestyle. 

We all need to talk about safety concerns – and often! We need to build a culture of health and safety for all of the people who enjoy this lifestyle but especially for the women, and to do that we need to have a foundation of awareness, support, communication, and explicit expectations across the board. But first we need buy-in from everyone but especially from the husbands, single gentlemen, bulls, lovers, and friends who enjoy this lifestyle. We really need you to rally with us on this one. Are you ready? I know I’m ready. Let’s do this.

How to talk to your wife about your cuckolding fantasies

This article was originally posted in ASN Lifestyle Magazine

Sharing your sexual fantasies with your partner can be a scary thing to do, especially if those fantasies involve “outside of the norm” kinds of themes. For a lot of people the fear of being harshly judged or rejected by their partner is enough to keep those fantasies buried deep in the closet. Cuckolding is no different. I’ve heard many stories over the years of men who got the courage to tell their wife about their cuckolding fantasies and it didn’t go well. This is what has inspired me to share my tips on how to approach her in a way that will hopefully make things go well. 

Nearly all of the men who I have come across have developed an interest in cuckolding fantasies through watching cuckold porn. They’ve watched it for years and already know what types of cuckolding or hotwifing fantasies turn them on. They have preferences for certain scenarios, scripts, kinks…they know what they like and what they don’t like and it all revolves around the sexual acts of her fucking someone else. So it’s no wonder that when they go to talk to their wife about their cuckolding fantasies they start with something like “It would be so hot if you fucked some other guy.”. This will more than likely come way out of left field for her and she will react with “Wait…what? Is this your sneaky way of trying to fuck other women?”. She’s immediately suspecting the worst.

What he fails to realize is that his wife is not there to simply perform for him or act out his fantasies for him. For her to “buy into” this kind of fantasy she needs to understand what’s in it for her and not just how it benefits him. This is the missing piece of the communication puzzle and it is vital.

There is a sequence that is very important bringing this up to your wife. In the December 2021 issue of ASN Magazine I wrote about how to invest in your wife’s confidence. This absolutely needs to come first. She will never feel comfortable sleeping with someone else if she lacks sexual self confidence – it is absolutely necessary. 

Next you will need to spend some time assuring her that you have no interest in sleeping with other women. She needs to trust you 100% on this so don’t just say it once – say it over and over and in many different ways. Your loyalty and fidelity needs to be at the forefront of the conversation.

And for the most important part….re-frame the conversation away from your cuckolding fantasy and instead towards her sexual empowerment. Understand that the women in porn are acting out a scene – you watching your wife will feel totally different. You will be in awe of your wife’s sexual prowess, her sexual appeal, her confidence – and that is what you will turn you on the most. Her sexual exploration with others is what will make you feel so fulfilled sexually that you have no interest in sleeping with other women. 

Explain to her that you are giving her the gift to explore her sexuality with others (and you find that such a turn on) while she involves you in some way, and that gift is what will bring your relationship to new heights of love and trust. This is a journey you would like to go on with her and she’s in the driver’s seat. She can decide what that journey looks like, with whomever she chooses, and it can take however long she wants – no pressure. Do not present her with a list of wants or rules or whatever. Let’s face it, if she loves you and cares about your relationship she will take your feelings into consideration and talk to you about these things so you don’t need to keep those threads of control by implementing rules upon her. 

But what about your sexual fantasies? You will get them. It may take a little bit of waiting patiently but it will come in time. Nurturing your wife’s sexual empowerment is the key to getting there so let her take her time and get to that point however she wants and she will reward you with the most amazing and incredible sexual journey along the way. 

Venus

Let’s talk about SEX

Caleth Jones, founder and CEO of The MoN App, joins Venus to make a huge announcement and to talk about how The MoN App is the first and only audio app designed for conversation, education, and exploration centered on sexual wellness. Venus will also explain why this platform for discussion is so important for education around cuckolding relationships and sexual empowerment for women in a time when it is most needed. This episode also includes a super sexy clip of Venus’s recent live MoN chat where she let the audience listen in while she laid back and had footboy between her thighs….hotness!!

Links
Listen to the full footboy experience – https://www.patreon.com/posts/67163061
The MoN App – https://themonapp.com/
The Helpful Cuck Tier – https://www.patreon.com/VenusCuckoldress
The Hotwife Hotel Takeover Event in Palm Springs – https://lifestylersmagazine.com/exclusive-events/


NEW!!Cuckolding Courses by Venus – https://cuckoldingcourses.com/
Venus Connections – matchmaking for loving cuckolding relationships
ASN Magazine – Venus feature: When the lifestyle turns terrifying
Full Swap Radio – listen to Venus every Tuesday at 5pm and 11pm Central Time
Merch! – yeah you read that right! Now you can get Venus/Cuckolding inspired merch!
Submit a question for the show
Become a Patreon supporter – support the podcast and get lots of perks! Including the Venus Vault!
Venus on Twitter
Venus on Instagram
Venus on YouTube
Venus on Facebook