2021 BIG announcements!

The new year is almost here and I have so many exciting things to share with everyone! Pssst you definitely don’t want to miss the announcement at the bottom about the grand prize!

My last post about looking back on 2020 was all about how it was a surprisingly great year for the Venus Cuckoldress Podcast, despite everything that was going on in the world. The podcast was launched in January and I was able to release 15 episodes and overall it’s been really popular with listeners. The most popular episode was Interracial Cuckolding and second place went to Women Love Cuckolding. Personally I’m hoping the second place episode was so popular because I’ve succeeded in reaching more women to inspire them to learn about this beautiful cuckolding relationship dynamic.

Highlights of the year for me were joining the Priory Society Podcast in studio in Los Angeles, teaming up with the Casual Swingers Podcast for a sequel episode about cuckolding, and my absolute mind-blowing experience of joining Dan Savage on the Savage LoveCast to talk about cuckolding relationships – woot woot!! Also I have really loved doing the Pillow Talks – live Q&A video sessions with other cuckoldresses as guests.

But with all of that, the real excitement came at the end of the year with the announcement that the Venus Cuckoldress Podcast is in the top of the top 1% of all active podcasts on Buzzsprout!! Holy fuck that really blew my mind to find that out. Not long after that I decided to make the huge step of quitting my day job and dedicating my time and energy to doing what I love – the Venus Cuckoldress Podcast. This is a massive step for me and I’m nervous but excited about it. For all of you who have supported the podcast on Patreon, it is entirely because of you that I am now able to do this!

What’s coming up?

The one year anniversary celebrations will be happening between January 2nd and February 2nd. Each week there will be giveaways and prizes for Patrons of the Venus Cuckoldress Podcast. Some examples are my favourite books with a handwritten note written from me inside the cover and 30 minute private one on one phones calls. I’ll also be doing some live hangouts (open to everyone for now) via CrowdCast so watch my Twitter page for updates about when those will be.

All current and new Patrons of the Venus Cuckoldress Podcast in January will receive a handwritten card from myself and mailed to them (if they consent) as a thank you for supporting the podcast.

Podcast Episodes

Now that I will have more time to dedicate to the podcast, you can expect more regularly scheduled full episodes for everyone’s listening pleasure. I’m aiming for every two weeks.

New Patron-only mini episodes will be released every week on Patreon. The fun little episodes will be sexy short stories, questions from listeners, and more so make sure you sign up on Patreon to support the podcast and you will get exclusive access to these gems and click here to submit a question for Venus https://venuscuckoldress.com/ask-venus/.

The ever popular Pillow Talks live with Venus and guests will continue in 2021 and more often than before! Invitations get sent out on Patreon.

Grand prize draw!

On February 2nd I will randomly draw one Patron of the podcast to win their choice of prize (see below). These are the two things that my Patrons have said they absolutely would love the most:

  1. The Venus foreplay experience – join Venus by private video (no faces) as she gets ready for her BBC date. Start with choosing what to wear, watch her do her hair and makeup, choose a perfume, and soak in all of the excitement and anticipation as she prepares to see her bull. This will be incredibly hot and sexy!
  2. Listen through the keyhole – listen in on the phone as Venus gets stretched out by her bull. Be forewarned she is loud as fuck! You’ll be using your cuck imagination as you listen to this hot as fuck encounter. Can you take it?
  3. Singles or couples mentorship – 3 weeks of mentorship with Venus to better understand and navigate the cuckolding lifestyle (great pick for women!).

“How do I get my wife into this?”

“First of all let me say that I believe this is not going to be right for most women. It takes a certain kind of woman to love this and want it for the rest of her life and odds are that won’t be your wife so be prepared for that answer.”

Venus

It’s the million dollar question I get asked all the time and I never have a really good answer for it. But for this blog post I will try my best to address this for all of you husbands out there.

Nearly all cuckolding relationships start out with a long term relationship where the husband approaches the wife with the idea – I don’t know why but that’s the usual beginnings of it. Rarely a wife will bring it up with her husband, and even more rare is when a relationship starts out with two people who are looking for a cuckold relationship. Sometimes it happens when the wife cheats and there is a discussion to try cuckolding after that but that’s not all that common either.

So it’s usually a case where the husband is wondering how to approach his wife about it or he has and she is not on board and he wants to know how to “convince” her. No wonder I get asked about it so often.

First of all let me say that I believe this is not going to be right for most women. It takes a certain kind of woman to love this and want it for the rest of her life and odds are that won’t be your wife so be prepared for that answer. As hard as that answer is to hear, you need to ask yourself if you will be okay with that result (it’s just not for her) and then ask yourself what that ultimately means for you. Can you be happy without it or is this something that you need long term to feel fulfilled? Those are tough questions that you will need to address. Also be prepared to accept that she may be open to trying it but not likely to love it in a way that will see her participate long term.

If you are not sure how to approach her then start working on communication in your relationship. If you’re not sure how to do that then perhaps seek some help from a counselor or therapist who is open minded to these kinds of relationship dynamics. Communication skills in a relationship are fundamental and worth the time and money you invest into it and sexual compatibility is just as important as love, trust, and connection so make it a top priority.

Do not approach it like it’s something weird – talk about it as something that bonds and connects you. Make it less about the sex with others and more about the experiences you are creating together. This is a journey you would like to take with her so let her know that she is in the driver’s seat – this is about her and the love you feel when she is able to fully express her sexuality, feel desired, and be completely sexually fulfilled.

If you’ve talked to her and she wants to do some research online please tell her to be careful or at least guide her in the right direction. Mainstream cuck porn is not what she needs to watch (it’s unrealistic garbage), amature is better but still doesn’t portray what’s really happening, and Tumblr and Twitter is just going to be a sea of jerk off material for fantasy driven cucks and a bizarre collection of findom factories spewing out some false narrative about slave cuckolding – all of which will make her run in the other direction.

If she is still interested and wants to learn more, it would be wise to try and connect with other couples in your area or online who she can feel comfortable talking to. Friendships between women in this lifestyle are priceless. Do whatever you can to help her form friendships so she can feel like she can ask questions to someone other than you. Trust me she will appreciate this.

Lastly, don’t pressure her. This is what I hear a lot from husbands, that they continue to try all sorts of tactics to “convince” her. I swear if that was me I would be so annoyed. Give her some space and time and opportunities to think about what you’re proposing. It can be a big decision for her so respect that. And remember, it might just not be something she will ever want. You may have to accept that.

Venus xo

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What’s next?

“I had finally found the kind of relationship that was meant for me. Finally! But what really struck me was that I didn’t even know it existed before.”

Venus

It’s been a few years since I sat down to write my first post on this blog, What the fuck is cuckolding? and I have been thinking a lot about what was going through my mind at that time and what was motivating me to write.

Several months earlier I had met a guy on tinder who introduced me to this kind of relationship and it was like a feeling of relief – I had finally found the kind of relationship that was meant for me. Finally! But what really struck me was that I didn’t even know it existed before. I knew I wanted something like that but I had no idea that I could actually have it. It had me wondering how many other women out there don’t know it exists either, and of those, how many like myself would really love it. So that is why I sat down and wrote – to let other women know, hey this might be of interest to you.

Fast forward three years and I’m wondering if I’ve been at all successful with that goal. My biggest reach is through my blog and my Twitter and through stats and polls I’ve learned that 95% to 97% of my readers are men, both single and attached. This is not exactly what I’ve been hoping for.

I’ve come to learn that women just are not online reading about these things and why I don’t know, but they just aren’t here. The men are online consuming the cuckolding jerk off material and a few are genuinely interested in learning about cuckolding relationships. This is why there is so much cuck porn on Twitter and used to be on Tumblr. That’s why when a cuckolding “chat” room opens up, it’s dominated by guys sharing pics of bulls and wives and cuckolding porn while the actual conversation rooms are quiet. This is why women are turned off by it all – the representation of cuckolding online is based in porn fantasy and not reality. Where is the legitimacy to this kind of relationship?

I get it – women and men are very different with what turns them on – and I think at times I’ve been guilty of feeding into the whole visual jerk off material that men want.

So….what do I do next? I’ve written a lot on here over the years and I’ve spoken quite a bit on various podcasts about this kind of relationship, and perhaps that’s as good as it will get. It’s been an effort that I’ve managed to fit in outside of my full time normal job and full time family and life responsibilities. At times it’s been a lot of work and although I love it, I’m wondering if it’s worth continuing. Maybe despite my efforts, cuckolding relationships will remain hidden from women who could possibly love that kind of relationship and perhaps that’s just something I need to accept.

Venus xo