Venus joins the Shameless Sex Podcast

A friend of mine who is a listener of the Shameless Sex Podcast sent me a message saying he thought I would make a great guest on their podcast to talk about cuckolding. So I reached out and they were happy to have me on their show!

It was a lot of fun to share my love for cuckolding relationships, clarify hotwifing and cuckolding, and give some really helpful word-for-word tips on how to write a dating profile if you are interested in finding this kind of relationship.

Enjoy!

Venus xo

[Guest Post] Past as Prologue

This is our first guest post from Will Acorn! If you’re interested in writing for the Venus Cuckoldress blog, you can find the guidelines here.

Healthy Communication with Your Partner About Their Past 

For my first guest post I want to talk to partnered men who are curious about how to start the conversation with your wife. Venus and her podcast guests have talked many times about the importance of communication in this lifestyle, especially at the beginning. Venus has talked about the angst that some can feel heading down this road. I would humbly suggest that the best way to start talking about a future in cuckolding is to gently open up communication about the past.  

Maybe you haven’t quite discussed all of your fantasies yet, and perhaps you worry she’ll judge you for thinking about what she experienced before you. Maybe you want to know how you compare. All of that is entirely normal for a couple, and women know it. It’s a hard conversation to start but crucial to setting the stage for exciting possibilities as a couple. If your partner is a keeper, she knows herself and her likes, but she may not know for sure you can handle the whole truth.  

On this website, you see the power of an emboldened, unabashed and unapologetic woman on full display. Venus speaks truth to power when she boldly declares her love of the cuckolding dynamic. As part of her story, she has shared her journey to that world. 

All Experience Is Good Experience

Women are cautious with what they divulge and their sexual history, preferences, and kinks for a good reason. Centuries of patriarchal societies have forced women to adapt to the default expectation of the deferential virgin bride. Historically our culture has instilled a set of perverse incentives and mixed messages on both women and men. 

Women are taught to cater to the fragile male ego, which can be exhausting. But realistically, women have the same inherent drivers to have fulfilling sex lives as men do. 

And quite frankly, a woman who knows what she likes and needs is a much better partner. However, for a woman to fully understand what she needs, she must have experience. All experience is good experience. Experience means your partner has learned herself, what works and what doesn’t. She can help you pleasure her in ways that inexperienced women simply can’t. Sometimes it’s as simple as a subtle cue to move just so, or a signal to stay right there, go a little faster, or a little more forcefully. And yes, sometimes you’ll find that she needs it a little deeper too, and that’s OK. 

It’s More Common Than You Think 

Again, consider how much pressure women feel to cater to the male ego and to tell him things that keep his spirits up. A demoralized lover is a lousy lover, so there is nothing nefarious about a woman downplaying other experiences she’s had. 

Virtually every woman has been with a guy who lacked confidence in bed and could not handle anything but encouragement. These men missed the opportunity to get to know their partner on a deeper level. They also missed a chance to improve. 

But just as most women have had a lousy lay, she’s probably had a fantastic one as well. If she captured your attention and devotion, then most likely, she caught the idea of someone in the past who possessed the skillsets and assets to rock her world. That is a GOOD thing! 

Venus is open about her history with and preference for black men. The internet in 2021 has made it very easy to think that interracial sex is rare while also implying only certain women date black men. Both of these notions are incorrect. Depending on where you live and your social circle’s demographics, a woman dating interracially is widespread. 

In the southern US, centuries of society add weight to the taboo. Still, women everywhere are likely far more open to the idea than you think. 

Your partner is not immune to all the factors that attract women to black men. She may not volunteer that information. She likely thinks that most men cannot handle that kind of information by default. Or she thinks it’s such a loaded topic that she would have to tread very carefully into that conversation. You want to be the guy she feels she can be totally open with and not feel weird telling her most intimate thoughts and feelings. 

Statistically, up to 52% of Millennials report having dated interracially. This is not some dark corner of the internet. In fact, you may want to ask yourself if you would like to date a person who wasn’t at least open to dating interracially in 2021. 

Yes, She Enjoyed It, And That’s OK 

So hopefully, she had one guy, black or not, blow her mind in bed. I promise she doesn’t view that as an attack on your manhood. Most likely, she considers it like a superb restaurant she ate at in the past. The menu was full of delectable items, and every visit was memorable. 

Or perhaps she thinks about it like a fantastic vacation where she could be the most relaxed and adventurous version of herself, even if temporarily. 

Regardless of how she views these experiences, they made her the woman you love. Life is a collection of experiences, and it’s OK to look fondly back on the good ones. 

It Doesn’t Mean She Thinks About It… Much 

As these topics slowly come up, most women will be cautious. Even if they admit to having had fantastic experiences, their instinct to protect your ego will push them to assure you that they don’t miss this. 

Outside of masturbation, most women are very good at putting their past in the rearview. Women are generally better than men at focusing on the delicious possibilities they have in their future.  

And this is a challenge for you. Every journey begins with a single step. For a couple considering this lifestyle, the first step should be acceptance and mutual understanding. Seek first to understand, then to be understood. So be patient, make your partner comfortable with sharing all of who she is and how she became the woman you love. 

When she feels totally accepted for all of her adventures and preferences, she will likely be much more comfortable talking about her fantasies and yours. From that foundation of understanding, you can begin to talk about the possibilities for a future together. Discuss ways to borrow from past experiences to form a more perfect union. 

About the author:

Will Acorn has lived the complex dynamics of the lifestyle for most of his sexual life. Will has been married to a Queen of Spades for 25 years. His life growing up as an elite athlete in a major inner city gave him a unique insight into the dynamics around this lifestyle from his teens. Acorn is a student of history, societies and cultures and is a strong proponent of Venus’ mission to empower women to take back their sexuality while improving communication, acceptance and understanding about the deeply fascinating aspects of non-monogamy.

Will Acorn on Twitter: https://twitter.com/acorn_will

2021 BIG announcements!

The new year is almost here and I have so many exciting things to share with everyone! Pssst you definitely don’t want to miss the announcement at the bottom about the grand prize!

My last post about looking back on 2020 was all about how it was a surprisingly great year for the Venus Cuckoldress Podcast, despite everything that was going on in the world. The podcast was launched in January and I was able to release 15 episodes and overall it’s been really popular with listeners. The most popular episode was Interracial Cuckolding and second place went to Women Love Cuckolding. Personally I’m hoping the second place episode was so popular because I’ve succeeded in reaching more women to inspire them to learn about this beautiful cuckolding relationship dynamic.

Highlights of the year for me were joining the Priory Society Podcast in studio in Los Angeles, teaming up with the Casual Swingers Podcast for a sequel episode about cuckolding, and my absolute mind-blowing experience of joining Dan Savage on the Savage LoveCast to talk about cuckolding relationships – woot woot!! Also I have really loved doing the Pillow Talks – live Q&A video sessions with other cuckoldresses as guests.

But with all of that, the real excitement came at the end of the year with the announcement that the Venus Cuckoldress Podcast is in the top of the top 1% of all active podcasts on Buzzsprout!! Holy fuck that really blew my mind to find that out. Not long after that I decided to make the huge step of quitting my day job and dedicating my time and energy to doing what I love – the Venus Cuckoldress Podcast. This is a massive step for me and I’m nervous but excited about it. For all of you who have supported the podcast on Patreon, it is entirely because of you that I am now able to do this!

What’s coming up?

The one year anniversary celebrations will be happening between January 2nd and February 2nd. Each week there will be giveaways and prizes for Patrons of the Venus Cuckoldress Podcast. Some examples are my favourite books with a handwritten note written from me inside the cover and 30 minute private one on one phones calls. I’ll also be doing some live hangouts (open to everyone for now) via CrowdCast so watch my Twitter page for updates about when those will be.

All current and new Patrons of the Venus Cuckoldress Podcast in January will receive a handwritten card from myself and mailed to them (if they consent) as a thank you for supporting the podcast.

Podcast Episodes

Now that I will have more time to dedicate to the podcast, you can expect more regularly scheduled full episodes for everyone’s listening pleasure. I’m aiming for every two weeks.

New Patron-only mini episodes will be released every week on Patreon. The fun little episodes will be sexy short stories, questions from listeners, and more so make sure you sign up on Patreon to support the podcast and you will get exclusive access to these gems and click here to submit a question for Venus https://venuscuckoldress.com/ask-venus/.

The ever popular Pillow Talks live with Venus and guests will continue in 2021 and more often than before! Invitations get sent out on Patreon.

Grand prize draw!

On February 2nd I will randomly draw one Patron of the podcast to win their choice of prize (see below). These are the two things that my Patrons have said they absolutely would love the most:

  1. The Venus foreplay experience – join Venus by private video (no faces) as she gets ready for her BBC date. Start with choosing what to wear, watch her do her hair and makeup, choose a perfume, and soak in all of the excitement and anticipation as she prepares to see her bull. This will be incredibly hot and sexy!
  2. Listen through the keyhole – listen in on the phone as Venus gets stretched out by her bull. Be forewarned she is loud as fuck! You’ll be using your cuck imagination as you listen to this hot as fuck encounter. Can you take it?
  3. Singles or couples mentorship – 3 weeks of mentorship with Venus to better understand and navigate the cuckolding lifestyle (great pick for women!).

Cleaning Up

Just like  many aspects in cuckolding, clean up is widely misunderstood and underappreciated. What might at first seem like an odd or extreme act, is actually the pinnacle of cuckolding love, trust and connection. Join Venus as she tells her story about what clean up has been like for her – fair warning it’s definitely NSFW! This episode is enlightening, intense, and incredibly hot!

Listen to the episode trailer:

Full episode:

Venus joins Dan Savage on the Savage Lovecast

I was beyond flattered and thrilled to get an invitation to join Dan Savage as a guest on the Savage Lovecast Podcast.

Here’s the link! https://www.savagelovecast.com/episodes/722#.X0XQA8hKiM8 Just a head’s up that guest appear on the “Magnum” versions of episodes and not the shorter ones.

I’ve been a Dan Savage fan for over a decade and it’s because of his hugely popular column Savage Love, that I first learned about non-monogamy, and that was what led me down the road to where I am today. Obviously I’m hugely grateful for his influence on my life!

Here’s a little bit about Dan, taken from his website www.savagelovecast.com:

Dan Savage is an author, a sex-advice columnist, a podcaster, a pundit, and a public speaker.

“Savage Love,” Dan’s sex-advice column, first appeared in the The Stranger, Seattle’s alternative weekly, in 1991. The column is now syndicated to more than 50 papers across the United States and Canada.

Dan has published six books. His newest book, American Savage, will be published in May of 2013. In 2010 Dan and his husband Terry Miller founded the It Gets Better Project. The IGBP has gathered tens of thousands of videos from people all over the world offering hope to LGBT kids. The book—It Gets Better: Coming Out, Overcoming Bullying, and Creating a Life Worth Living—was a New York Times best seller. In 2012 the It Gets Better Project was awarded an Emmy.

Dan is a regular contributor to public radio’s This American Life. He is a also a frequent guest on The Colbert Report, Real Time with Bill Maher, and other television programs. In the fall of 2011 MTV filmed Dan as he toured colleges performing “Savage Love Live,” the live version of his sex-advice column. That tour became the basis for the 2012 MTV program “Savage U.”

In 2006 Dan launched the Savage Lovecast, a weekly, call-in advice podcast. It is now one of iTunes top 50 podcasts. Dan’s graphic, pragmatic, and humorous advice has changed the cultural conversation about monogamy, gay rights, religiosity, and politics. Dan lives in Seattle with his husband, their son, and a one-eyed, deaf poodle named Stinker.

This is one of my favourite Dan Savage videos. If you haven’t already watched it – you absolutely must! It’s brilliant and hilarious!

Venus xo