This time of year always makes me want to look back on everything, but this year especially. What a fucked up year – and yet transformational in many ways for me.
It’s coming up on 5 years since I first sat down at my desk and started to write my first blog post about this wonderful kind of relationship I had been introduced to. I had never written a blog, or even read one actually, so I didn’t really know what I was doing – I just wanted to share my thoughts, experiences, and love for cuckolding relationships. I figured that if I had never known it existed until then, I was sure that many other women had never heard of it either. And for me at least, when I find something so incredible, I just want to share it with other women.
At that time, I hadn’t spoken to other couples or other women in the lifestyle, and I hadn’t read anything online about it – I simply wanted to share my thoughts in a genuine and unadulterated way. I wrote with the expectation that no one would be reading it so it was surprising to me when I sat there and looked at the stats page. I wondered “Who are these people, and how did they find this?”.
Then came the invitations to speak on various podcasts. I was hesitant at first because hey, I’m not an expert, but actually they just wanted me to tell my story – and that…I could do! I was always impressed at the amount of work and dedication it took for them to produce their podcasts, the managing schedules for guests and prepping for shows, and all of the tech knowledge that comes along with the podcasting equipment.
I wrote and I wrote… and wrote some more, until 4 years later I felt like I had said everything I needed to say. I sat back and reflected on it all and realized that it was mainly men who were reading my blog. The stats didn’t lie – over 95% men! I had failed at reaching women and worse yet…I realized that I had simply become a product for the massive factory of male consumed cuckold fantasy content on the internet. FUCK. That was something I really couldn’t be okay with.
So I shut down the blog and disappeared from social media for two months. I withdrew from it all and pondered what to do next and like many of the big decisions I’ve made in my life, I relied heavily on my intuition to tell me which direction to take. My closest friends commented to me that it seemed like I was making space in my life for a change – and that’s exactly what it was, I just didn’t know what that change was going to look like.
One day I received a DM on Twitter from someone who I think I had chatted with sporadically but didn’t really know well. He suggested I start a podcast. My knee-jerk reaction was there was no way I could do that. I knew nothing about tech stuff, I couldn’t see myself managing booking guests and sorting out questions to ask etc. I already had full time life responsibilities that left me with barely any free time to work on such things. The idea seemed impossible and even unpleasant to me. But then he sent me a link of step by step instructions. I had a look and for the first time actually really considered it. Maybe it wasn’t so difficult after all, and perhaps I didn’t have to have guests – perhaps I could just continue to share my story but to a wider audience. And then it clicked! That push was exactly what I needed and a week later, the Venus Cuckoldress Podcast was born.
True to my style, the podcast has been just me telling my story and sharing my thoughts on beautiful cuckolding relationships, dating, and being a Queen of Spades. The difference from my blog though, is I have managed to reach a much larger audience of men and WOMEN. Finally! As the podcast has grown in popularity I’ve had and increase in really amazing feedback from cucks, couples, curious listeners, and…single women learning about this kind of relationship. YES!!!
I’ve also had huge support from my Patreon subscribers and that has allowed me to buy equipment (that I’m still learning how to use) and pour more of my time and energy into doing something I’m so passionate about – something I truly love doing.
I’ve also noticed an upward trend in new blogs popping up from both women and men in this lifestyle and who love it in the same way that I do – yay! I find so much joy in seeing other women take that brave step to put themselves out there and share why they love cuckolding relationships so much. More of that please!!
This past year has been hugely difficult for so many and in so many ways and yet for me, it’s been the learning experience that I needed. I’ve learned that I needed a ‘reset’ course correction in where I wanted to go with this lifestyle, and I’ve learned that long distance relationships in the time of a global pandemic are not likely going to survive that hurdle, and most importantly I’ve learned that there are many women and men out there who, thanks to the podcast, have learned about this incredible kind of relationship dynamic in a whole new way.
Last week I learned that the Venus Cuckoldress Podcast is in the top 1% of over 86,000 podcasts on Buzzsprout! Thank you to all of you who continue to support my journey and who have helped make this podcast so successful.
The future is bright for cuckolding love.