How to catch a goddess 

“This is not the time to be passive, even if your nature is to be. Treat this challenge with the same level of intensity, assertiveness, and vigor, as if it was that dream job you are striving for and this is the all important make it or break it interview.”

Venus

You want a female centered or female led relationship with a beautiful, powerful, goddess of a woman right? Well let’s say you find one who is incredible and you want to date her. Now what do you need to do to make it happen? Here’s some advice about what you can do to really stand out from the rest and make a great impression from the start so pay attention, make notes, and then get to it!

1. Make an impression immediately 

Give her compliments, tell her you’re serious about your intentions, and ask her what you can do in order to stand out from the rest of the guys pursuing her. Sweep her off her feet right from the first day. 

2. Pay careful attention to her:

Listen carefully to what she says. Pick up on her likes, her dislikes, her preferences, favorite things, birthdays, etc. make getting to know everything about her your most important priority. Learn about what kinds of things or services she needs help with in her life right now. 

3. Be bold:

This is not the time to be passive, even if your nature is to be. Treat this challenge with the same level of intensity, assertiveness, and vigor, as if it was that dream job you are striving for and this is the all important make it or break it interview. Dress your best, smell great, pull out all the shots and be on point all the time. Be creative and driven. This is your one chance so don’t blow it. 

4. Give her what she needs and wants:

This is great advice so listen up… Instead of asking her what you can do for her, learn about what she needs and give it to her. She will be filled with gratitude. Does she hate doing housework? Hire a cleaning company to do it for her once a week. Does she have a sore back from her stressful job? Provide for her financially so she doesn’t have to work then send her to the spa regularly for massages. Is she overwhelmed with looking after the kids? Hire a nanny to help her out. Do not hesitate to do these things for her. Do it today. 

5. Shower her with thoughtful gifts:

Every girl appreciates a surprise gift, goddesses even more so. Send her flowers, her favorite perfume, a gift card for new lingerie, whatever…just send her something you think she might like. If her birthday is coming up then for sure do not forget to send her a gift. Neglecting to do so on her birthday or other special occasion would be inexcusable. 

6. Always follow through with what you say you will do:

Your word must be absolutely solid. If you say you will call her or text her every night before bed then make sure you do it. Every night. Before bed. Every time. Don’t say you will do something and then fail to do it, for whatever reason. If you feel like you might not be able to keep your promise, then tell her before you fuck up. 

7. Make her a priority:

Yes your work is likely stressful and work days are probably long more often than not, but it only takes 10 seconds to send her a text to say something short and sweet. Don’t let long periods go by without reminding her how much she means to you. If you’re thinking about her, tell her. A goddess deserves attention all the time. She wants it. Give it to her. 

8. Adore everything about her:

Love her fiercely, admire her unique qualities, respect her power and authority, and desire her every minute of every day. She is the centre of your universe. 

9. Be dedicated to her happiness:

When she is happy, you are happy therefore you do whatever it takes to ensure that her wants and needs are met. This starts from the moment you meet her and continues, without wavering, throughout. She will forever love you for it. 

10. Be of service to her:

Practice chivalry, hold open the door for her, carry her bags, anticipate when she will need your help with something. Don’t wait for her to ask you for help with something. Pamper her and tend to her needs. Run her errands for her, pour her bath for her, and be useful around the house. 

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What the fuck is wrong with cucks?

“I have absolutely no interest in being someone’s online fantasy cuckoldress and I’d really like to not waste any more time with this so this shit is really getting annoying as fuck!”

Venus

Today I’m feeling annoyed as fuck. And given that the reason behind that has to do with the cuck relationship in my life, I feel the need to vent a bit here. Not just to complain, but to seek answers. I genuinely need to know why this seems to be a phenomenon within many of the cuckolds who I’ve met.

Cuckold couples normally consist of a solid serious relationship, usually a long term committed couple or a married couple. For me, it needs to be that way because it’s that close emotional connection between us where all of the magic happens. To put it simply, this is not something I can do casually with someone. I’m looking for my life partner, not just dating for fun.

I get a lot of attention from cucks all over the world, who want to have a relationship with me. Apparently single cuckoldresses are even more rare than single cucks around here…. You’d think that this would be a good thing for me, which it is nice to have so many options, but it also takes a lot of time to sort through all of the emails and messages. Every person falls on a different part of the cuckolding spectrum and it takes several questions and answers back and forth to find out if what I’m looking for fits with what he’s looking for. It’s also tricky to find someone whom I have some sort of connection with and who I find attractive. Really sometimes I think I might need a personal assistant to help me!

So I happen to find one who I think might work out for me and he seems like he’s serious about everything. Great right? Yes. I’m happy, he’s happy, and we begin to make plans to move forward. Then suddenly he gets cold feet. He’s scared, terrified, or whatever I don’t know. He says things like it’s a vulnerable position being a cuckold and it takes some courage to actually live that life. Despite my best efforts to reassure him that it will all be good, he continues to drag his feet….something I have very little patience for.

Fantasizing about being cuckolded by your girlfriend or wife must be really hot, and it seems like this is a big thing for cucks out there. But within the past 9 months this has happened 3 times where the cuck is too terrified to make that fantasy become a reality. I have absolutely no interest in being someone’s online fantasy cuckoldress and I’d really like to not waste any more time with this so this shit is really getting annoying as fuck!

My question to the other cuckoldresses out there is: Is this something you’ve experienced as well? And my question to the cucks out there: What are your thoughts on this?

Venus xo

February 24, 2016 UPDATE

Thank you to all of the people who have commented and emailed me about this post. I’ve really appreciated hearing about this from your perspective and it’s helped me be able to sort it out a bit better in my head. Yes it seems like some are just more comfortable living this life in fantasy, and some are more brave and willing to make it into something real life. From what I’ve heard, these types of relationships start off as something very vanilla and work up to cuckolding later on.

I guess that’s where this situation for me is different. I’m looking to find my cuck match right up front and the vanilla stuff fall into place afterwards. I can understand how that lack of an established relationship base can make things feel unstable for a cuck especially right in the beginning and that might be what contributed to the problem. It might have something to do with that all three cucks lived far from me so it was a long distance relationship in the beginning as well – something that’s never easy.

Something I would like to make clear about this post though, is that over the past 9 months I have been pursued by, and considered dating, several other cucks – some of whom were very serious about a relationship and would not have had cold feet at any point. While I totally appreciated this from them, I just didn’t feel the connection I needed so didn’t pursue a relationship with them but I want to mention it so it’s clear that there are some really great cucks out there despite my challenges with a few others.

For now, I’ve given up on trying to date cucks long distance. It’s a lot of effort and the relationship stability just isn’t there for this kind of lifestyle. I really feel like the intimacy and trust that’s built in this kind of thing needs to be established in person.

I am optimistic though that I will find my cuck….it just might take a little longer.

Venus xo

What the fuck is cuckolding?

“The man gives his woman the gift of non-monogamy and incredible sexual experiences with others, and in turn the woman gives her man the gift of being involved in her experiences in some way.”

Venus

Well here it is: my first post about life in this strange world of being a cuckoldress. I use that word ‘strange’, but really it’s not strange at all to me, just strange to the people who don’t understand it. In fact I feel like cuckolding in relationships is just a normal way of expressing your love and adoration of each other in a way that society generally feels is taboo in nature.

I often find myself being asked to define cuckolding, and oh my… I struggle with how to do that in a way that accurately credits this beautiful lifestyle. It’s easy to say cuckolding is a man who enjoys watching his woman have sex with other men, but that doesn’t even come close to encompassing what it is. Cuckolding is different for everyone and there’s a huge spectrum of practices within it, but the main theme of cuckolding for me is that it’s a one sided open relationship and it’s a gift you give each other. The man gives his woman the gift of non-monogamy and incredible sexual experiences with others, and in turn the woman gives her man the gift of being involved in her experiences in some way. It’s a two way compersion street.

I personally love the power imbalance that comes with cuckolding. The woman is admired, cherished, adored, and treated like a queen by her man while he is absolutely faithful to her. He loves making her happy and he enjoys seeing her satisfied. She’s put on a pedestal where she belongs and he makes sure she stays there.

Some cuckolds enjoy a level of humiliation within their relationship and again that varies between couples, some intense humiliation and others less so with more love and respect for the cuck. Personally I don’t feel comfortable with anything overtly cruel or mean but I can understand how some submissive men may enjoy that dynamic.

Regardless of which definition you feel is more accurate, I’m hoping to use this blog as a means to help people better understand the cuckolding lifestyle, share insight on what it is like to be a cuckoldress, and in doing so helping myself to navigate and understand this amazing and exciting cuck world. Take my word for it, it’s fucking fascinating!

 

Venus xo