New episode – how do I get my wife into this?

This is where I do my best to answer the one question that I’ve been asked the most over the years….how do I get my wife into this? How do I bring it up? What’s the best approach? What if she hates the idea? There are so many things to take into consideration it’s no wonder there are so many men looking for answers. In this new episode I do my best to try to provide some answers and give some helpful advice, tips, and suggestions so that hopefully you’ll have a positive outcome. Take notes for this one!

Venus xo

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Cuck Fear – new episode

Yup I’ve gone and disturbed the hornets nest with this one haha! As if the blog post about cuck fear wasn’t controversial enough, I had to go and do a lengthy podcast episode about it. Love it or hate it, agree or disagree, this one will be food for thought for many of you I’m sure.


Venus xo

Venus – The Goddess Worshipper Interview

“Black men have taken the top spot for alpha male sexuality and it’s well deserved. It’s absolutely true. It’s interesting that the popularity of sites like have surged and simultaneously searches for cuck porn have also gone through the roof. Coincidence? I doubt that. “

The Goddess Worshipper Blog

Recently I sat down with the Goddess Worshipper Blog to talk about all things interracial cuckolding. The blog, which has been around for 5 years now, promotes female empowerment and features women from all over the world. This was my opportunity to really share my thoughts and feelings on a variety of aspects within this lifestyle so please check it out and share it with others, especially women!

Venus xo

The ugly side of cuckolding popularity

Let’s face it, interest in cuckolding is at an all time high. This surge in popularity has come at a price though. What cuckolding has been in the past has quickly become distorted online and why exactly is that important? Why does that matter?

This episode exposes the ugly side of cuckolding popularity and why it might have something to do with why there aren’t more women into this kind of thing and also why it’s so hard for husbands to get their wife into it.

I know this podcast episode is going to be controversial and many people won’t agree with what I have to say but it’s something that only years of being exposed to different aspects of the online cuckolding world has given me a unique opportunity to look critically at cuckolding as a whole – where the flaws are and where improvements can be made.

Venus xo

And in case you missed my last episode with the Priory Society, here it is!

Venus in the flesh – Priory Society

Last month I had the chance to sit down in studio with the hosts of the Priory Society Podcast in LA and talk about the truth and misconceptions about cuckolding relationships, hot cuckolding experiences, tease and humiliation, hotwifing, tips for bulls, dating in the lifestyle, why I’m a size queen, safety tips for women, and even tips for women’s health! It was crazy hot and so hilarious – lots of laughs all around!

Have a listen and enjoy!

Venus xo

Interracial Cuckolding

Interracial cuckolding…it’s crazy popular. Interracial porn is in massive demand. That dark skin, his big black dick, her pale soft skin, she’s on her knees….the scenario plays over and over again. White guys love it and cuckolding couples are seeking out black bulls more now than ever.

In this episode I explore my thoughts on why this is such a hot trend right now, what the difference really is between the sex appeal and capabilities of black guys versus white guys. I also share my stories about my first time fucking a black guy as my boyfriend sat unsuspectingly in another room, and how I truly went black and never went back – totally naturally.

Venus xo

Women LOVE cuckolding

This is the one episode that all women need to listen to: all of the reasons why women should absolutely love this kind of relationship. With all of the content out there that comes from the male perspective (and there’s so much of it) this time it’s all straight up from a woman’s point of view. From love, trust, excitement, empowerment and confidence, to asking for what you want and getting it every fucking time (yes!) this has it all.


Venus xo

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What’s a bull?

For those of you who are just learning about what cuckolding relationships are all about, no doubt at some point you’re going to wonder what a bull is. Why is it called that? What physical and sexual characteristics does a bull usually have and why is it so important (and difficult) to find the right one?

Join me in this podcast episode as I delve into the unique role of the bull within cuckolding relationships and try to explain how mind blowing the experiences can be for you all when you find the bull you really want and need. Also learn about the red flags of bad bull behaviour and the green flags you should look out for with the good ones.


Venus xo

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All cucked up – with Casual Swinger

This is my return to the Casual Swinger Podcast to talk all things cuckolding with the always insightful and hilarious Mickey and Mallory. The first episode was so much fun and this one doesn’t disappoint either! Some of the topics covered are: sexually empowering women in this lifestyle, defining a cuckoldress, real love in cuckolding, hotwifing, what makes a great cuckoldress, loving humiliation explained, how to approach your wife with this lifestyle, the real strength of cucks, and talking about the incredible Jack and Kissy episode where they explained their wedding night fantasy that came true – hotness! Also don’t miss my advice for couples who want to start exploring this beautiful dynamic. Enjoy!

International Women’s Day March 8, 2020

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The art of the tease

For a long time I’ve said that guys who are cucks have to be wired in a way to love this. Cuck scenarios, humiliation, and sexual denial have to create cuck angst (a mix of turned on, anxious, nervousness etc) in order for him to actually enjoy it and women need to be able to dish it out in a loving way and cuckolding relationships are about the woman including the guy she loves in some way when it comes to her sexual adventures with other men. This episode is all about exploring ways women can do that, so for women who maybe are just curious about cuckolding or couples who need some new ideas, this is the episode for you.

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How it all began

How did you get into cuckolding? It’s one of the most common questions I get from men and women. Well, this podcast episode is all about the events in my life that led up to how I became a cuckoldress and exactly how my first cuckolding relationship started.

Join me for 20 minutes as I talk about my slutty high school days, finding Dan Savage’s Savage Love column, my sexual exploration in the non-monogamy world, how I met my first cuck, and of course details about what that first cuckolding experience was like for me…..spoiler alert – it’s super hot!!

Venus xo

The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast is now available on nearly all podcast listening platforms including Apple itunes, Spotify, and Stitcher.

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The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast

Introducing The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast! Thank you to all of my friends who have encouraged me to create my own podcast about the beautiful world of cuckolding and now here it is!

Enjoy and share the fuck out of it!

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Cucks are their own worst enemy

“They’re focusing entirely on the sexual acts/fantasies of cuckolding and haven’t stopped to realize that they only know about 2% of what cuckolding really is, and they will never know because they will never experience a real loving cuckold relationship, and all because they will never even learn how to approach women with respect and simply focus on building something real.”


There’s no way around it – this post is going to sound like I’m shitting on cucks. Sorry in advance.

First let me start out by saying that over the years I have met some couples and single cucks who I love and adore and whose friendships will likely last a lifetime and I’m so grateful to have met these beautiful, respectful, classy people but this post is about the countless number of cucks who are out there behaving like morons. This one is for you.

Today I came across a woman around the same age as me who is trying to navigate the dating world of single cucks and let’s just say, it sucks. Her stories are all too familiar to me; single cucks are forever stuck with one foot outside of the cuck closet and unable to get the courage to come on out and experience this beautiful relationship for what it is, and they are obsessed with using her as a temporary fetish dispenser so they can endlessly jerk off about it. This bad behaviour is an epidemic going on within this lifestyle and it’s not good for anyone but especially detrimental to women who have the courage to want this kind of relationship.

Imagine being a single woman and putting yourself out there, seeking this kind of relationship and being bombarded online by cucks who seem interested but really are only interested in using you for jerk off material. All they want to do is ask you a thousand questions about how you would cuck them so they can get all hot and bothered and rub one out again and again – they’re not going to ask her anything else, not get to know her, not treat her like an actual person. That alone is enough for a woman to say fuck it and never come back to this. But no, she also has to deal with the usual catfish, crazy stalkers, and married guys pretending to be single. But the worst of it is…when she finds a guy who she really likes and when it comes time to meet…poof he’s gone. He locked himself firmly into the cuck closet again, never to be heard from again. Over and over again she has experienced this and the stories from other women are similar across the board.

I get it – cuckolding is hot as fuck. Obviously I get that. But for fuck’s sakes can’t more people online give it some credibility and make it more about dating or relationships than just porn?? Just look at what kind of environment has been created online – it’s a sea of male fantasy bullshit driven porn – certainly not female friendly in any way. No fucking wonder there aren’t more women into this. No fucking wonder wives are hesitant to even consider it. No wonder guys don’t take it seriously. For example there are married cucks online posting naked pics of their wives (faces and personal info) in chat rooms just for the purpose of jerking off when a bull makes comments about it. I seriously fucking doubt the wife has consented! What in the actual fuck are you doing to your relationship, the disrespect for your wife, the perception of cuckolding relationships to anyone who sees that??

So many cucks are just mentally warped by the heroin for masturbation which is all over the internet and it’s created a rampant toxic cuck mentality and that is now a massive turn off for women. They’re making the mistake of focusing entirely on the sexual acts/fantasies of cuckolding and haven’t stopped to realize that they only know about 2% of what cuckolding really is, and they will never know because they will never experience a real loving cuckold relationship, and all because they will never even learn how to approach women with respect and simply focus on building something real.

A big part of what I do is talk about cuckolding relationships so that women will consider it as a valid relationship option and yet I also feel sorry for the women who decide to do just that. I cringe to think about what it’s going to be like for them once they go through what the rest of us go through and I just pray that they won’t give up on it.

Cucks need to set the bar higher for each other, stop acting like fantasy driven pigs, and ask yourself how you are contributing to this on a bigger level. Either that or stop complaining to me about how it’s so hard to find women who are looking for a cuck relationship – I don’t want to fucking hear it anymore.

Venus xo

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“How do I get my wife into this?”

“First of all let me say that I believe this is not going to be right for most women. It takes a certain kind of woman to love this and want it for the rest of her life and odds are that won’t be your wife so be prepared for that answer.”


It’s the million dollar question I get asked all the time and I never have a really good answer for it. But for this blog post I will try my best to address this for all of you husbands out there.

Nearly all cuckolding relationships start out with a long term relationship where the husband approaches the wife with the idea – I don’t know why but that’s the usual beginnings of it. Rarely a wife will bring it up with her husband, and even more rare is when a relationship starts out with two people who are looking for a cuckold relationship. Sometimes it happens when the wife cheats and there is a discussion to try cuckolding after that but that’s not all that common either.

So it’s usually a case where the husband is wondering how to approach his wife about it or he has and she is not on board and he wants to know how to “convince” her. No wonder I get asked about it so often.

First of all let me say that I believe this is not going to be right for most women. It takes a certain kind of woman to love this and want it for the rest of her life and odds are that won’t be your wife so be prepared for that answer. As hard as that answer is to hear, you need to ask yourself if you will be okay with that result (it’s just not for her) and then ask yourself what that ultimately means for you. Can you be happy without it or is this something that you need long term to feel fulfilled? Those are tough questions that you will need to address. Also be prepared to accept that she may be open to trying it but not likely to love it in a way that will see her participate long term.

If you are not sure how to approach her then start working on communication in your relationship. If you’re not sure how to do that then perhaps seek some help from a counselor or therapist who is open minded to these kinds of relationship dynamics. Communication skills in a relationship are fundamental and worth the time and money you invest into it and sexual compatibility is just as important as love, trust, and connection so make it a top priority.

Do not approach it like it’s something weird – talk about it as something that bonds and connects you. Make it less about the sex with others and more about the experiences you are creating together. This is a journey you would like to take with her so let her know that she is in the driver’s seat – this is about her and the love you feel when she is able to fully express her sexuality, feel desired, and be completely sexually fulfilled.

If you’ve talked to her and she wants to do some research online please tell her to be careful or at least guide her in the right direction. Mainstream cuck porn is not what she needs to watch (it’s unrealistic garbage), amature is better but still doesn’t portray what’s really happening, and Tumblr and Twitter is just going to be a sea of jerk off material for fantasy driven cucks and a bizarre collection of findom factories spewing out some false narrative about slave cuckolding – all of which will make her run in the other direction.

If she is still interested and wants to learn more, it would be wise to try and connect with other couples in your area or online who she can feel comfortable talking to. Friendships between women in this lifestyle are priceless. Do whatever you can to help her form friendships so she can feel like she can ask questions to someone other than you. Trust me she will appreciate this.

Lastly, don’t pressure her. This is what I hear a lot from husbands, that they continue to try all sorts of tactics to “convince” her. I swear if that was me I would be so annoyed. Give her some space and time and opportunities to think about what you’re proposing. It can be a big decision for her so respect that. And remember, it might just not be something she will ever want. You may have to accept that.

Venus xo

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Your cuckolding questions answered

“I wish every wannabe cuck knew that 98% of what you think cuckolding is is bullshit. What you see an read online and in mainstream porn is a total lie. Be prepared to throw out all of that garbage and learn that cuckolding = a relationship. It’s love, not a fetish, fantasy, or just jerk off material.”


So recently I asked my readers what they would like to ask me about cuckolding relationships and I received so many responses. Here are most of them:

Q. I’m interested in learning about the early days. What go you into cuckolding? Who convinced who to try it and how?

A. The second post I ever wrote on this blog discussed who and how I got into cuckolding. I had a profile on Tinder in 2015 that explained how I didn’t want monogamy. I matched with a guy who obviously liked that part of me. Shortly after that he slowly started explaining cuckolding to me. I immediately loved it. I never hesitated or looked back. Here’s the full story:

Q. What do you think is the most misunderstood part of cuckolding?

A. So many things… I think the biggest misunderstanding is that it’s some kind of weird kinky fetish. It’s not. It’s a real relationship which isn’t that different from any other kind of non-monogamous relationship. Also people assume that a cuck is some kind of pathetic loser, and that’s bullshit. To be a cuck in a relationship like this requires emotional strength like no other and there is always love and respect no matter what kind of humiliation is dished out.

Q. What’s the one thing you wish every wannabe cuckold knew?

A. Good question. I wish every wannabe cuck knew that 98% of what you think cuckolding is is bullshit. What you see an read online and in mainstream porn is a total lie. Be prepared to throw out all of that garbage and learn that cuckolding = a relationship. It’s love, not a fetish, fantasy, or just jerk off material.

Q. How does the reality of cuckolding differ from the fantasy?

A. I think the easiest way to explain it is to look at the difference between sex in porn and sex in reality. The fantasy of cuckolding relationship most likely is all about the visual acts or scenarios, the play by play of each scene, the typical cuck portrayals etc. whereas the reality is so emotionally complex, subtle, intense, creative, and beautiful. Additionally cuckolding is an actual relationship with all of the normal things that couples do – it’s not cuckolding all of the time. We still do the things that everyone else does, friends, family functions, parenting, grocery shopping.

Q. When dating do you find different cucks bring out different aspects of your personality or do you have the same general approach no matter what? Example alpha cucks vs beta cucks.

A. I think I do adjust somewhat to the guy depending on his personality. Chemistry between two people is unique to each combination so I would find it difficult to have the same approach to every person.

Q. Are you physically attracted to cucks?

A. Yes absolutely.

Q. Would you ever be with more than one cuck?

A. My initial answer is no, I only ever want one cuck, however you never know I guess.

Q. Is it possible that a cuck can have more than one cuckoldress? Have you ever shared your cuck with other cuckoldresses? Or would you?

A. Personally I don’t think so. The basic foundation of a cuck relationship is that he is totally committed and faithful to her. Just the thought of my cuck with any other woman or even a cuckoldress really pisses me off. I would never allow it.

Q. Would you ever date a bull?

A. I think it would be really hard for me to date a bull without also having a cuck relationship. I need both to be happy and fulfilled.

Q. Would you ever have a live-in bull?

A. It’s not out of the question for me but I think it could be really complicated. It would take three people who would be very comfortable with that dynamic. I’ve written a bit before about this kind of scenario:

Q. What would you do if you got pregnant with a bull?

A. I’m not having any more children so no that’s not happening.

Q. What are some of your rituals to reconnect with your cuck after being with your bull?

A. Clean up is my favourite. Time spent together to talk, cuddle, and sleep together. Sharing photos and videos is also fun.

Q. Have you converted any of your friends to cuckolding or being a Queen of Spades?

A. None of my girlfriends are very interested in cuckolding. They know all about it from me but it’s just not something that’s for them. They all are into open relationships (they all are very open minded) and one prefers dating black guys. I wrote about here in this post

Q. What are the best ways a cuck can impress you?

A. Great question! I’ve actually written an entire post about how a cuck can impress me. Here it is

Q. What are the best ways a bull can impress you?

A. I love this question as well! I usually like bulls who are younger, athletic, black, and large (9’+), who are always respectful and open minded toward my lifestyle, and who value friendship, connection, and creating incredible sexual chemistry. Being pushy, rude, or failing to learn about what I like is sure to turn me off.

Q. How do you manage the sexual needs of bulls if you are juggling more than one?

A. I always have more than one. I don’t have a lot of free time to see them and they are patient and understanding about that. They are free to fuck whoever else they want to whenever they want so I have never felt any kind of pressure from them.

Q. How do you deal with jealousy in a cuck relationship?

A. I have zero tolerance for negative jealousy or him feeling possessive or insecure. Those things turn me off and are difficult to get past. Cuck angst is fine – that’s normal and fun to work through together, but jealousy really sucks.

Q. Can you ever go back? Lol

A. Back to a vanilla relationship? No. I would never be comfortable living a life where I couldn’t be who I am. It’s not an option.

Q. How do you choose your bulls online? Any specific questions, selection criteria, ritual to find genuine bulls and sort out the wannabes and pretenders quickly ?

A. For me I normally just trust my gut feelings a lot when it comes to talking to people online and with bulls it’s no different. I can usually tell pretty quickly if it’s someone who I think we would be a good match. Obviously I’m a size queen and queen of spades so those two boxes have to be checked, but personality and respect for each other has to be there too. I’ve been friends with most of my bulls for years. When you find a good one you keep them. Red flags are when he is too eager, too rushed, not willing to verify, arrogant, and uninterested in learning about you and your preferences/boundaries.

Q. What percentage of women, in your estimation, would be looking for a cuck relationship? What percentage do you think might be open to it in 5 years? A decade?

A. I have no idea how many but my guess is there are very few women looking for a relationship like this. Maybe as time goes by it will be more widely known (and accurately portrayed) and perhaps more women will then begin to consider it as a valid relationship option but that would be a long time from now.

Q. Are you in a relationship now?

A. For now I am choosing not to go into any details about my relationship status. Perhaps at a later date I will let you know.

Q. How is Your sexual relationship with Your cuck “in between bull encounters” if there is any, if there is none then why not?

A. Each relationship I’ve been in is different in that way. Some enjoy sexual denial more than others so it has varied. I don’t have any set rules about that upfront. I may or may not fuck my cuck. It just depends how I’m feeling.

Q. How long can you edge your cuck?

A. As long a I want.

Q. In cuckolding relationships, do you think they all should have a hierarchy? Like my ideal cuck relationship would have bull at the top, myself, then my cuck.

A. I think that’s kind of what sets cuckolding relationships apart from hotwifing relationships, yes. Sometimes the hierarchy is just in the bedroom, others it’s 24/7, but it’s always unique to the couple.

Q. Are you more of a dominating woman in real life?

A. Yes I have always been more in control and assertive with my expectations however I feel like cuckolding relationships have brought that out more in me.

Q. What American city would you like to live in?

A. If I were to move from Canada I would like to live in New York City. Or somewhere else on the East coast or somewhere on the West coast. But to be honest your crazy American politics, ridiculous healthcare, and gun fanatics really scare me soooo maybe not. Ha!

Q. What’s the thing that nobody who isn’t in the lifestyle spends any time thinking about, but is actually really important when you’re in the lifestyle?

A. Hmmmm that’s a tough one… I think it’s about trust. For people who live vanilla lives I think trust is a one dimensional basic thought. It’s either there or it’s not – it’s black and white. In cuckolding, it’s creative like an art form. It’s an exploration or a journey you take together and it evolves as you go. It’s more than just a gift you give to each other, it’s giving each other everything, and that is where the magic comes from in a cuckolding relationship. I don’t know if that makes sense but that’s the easiest way I can explain it.

Q. Do you think there’s a danger of the Cucktress (wife/gf) losing respect and love for her new cuck?

A. I’ve had this question come up several times over the years and I’m trying to figure out if it is a real issue or just a common fear that cucks have. For me, I have never lost respect for my cuck – ever – and I don’t see how I ever would. Perhaps if it was not a serious relationship then maybe but when you already love each other then the journeys you take in a cuckolding relationship are just an evolution of the connection you have so I don’t see how respect would be lost.

Q. What keeps YOU turned on, and what can he do to make sure you’re happy?

A. This is a tough one to answer… When I think about the moments when I shared experiences with my first cuck, those turned me on incredibly, but when it comes to ongoing I think championship pussy eating skills are definitely at the top of the list. I also love thoughtful gifts, flowers, little reminders that he is thinking about me – those sorts of things.

Q. What things turn on the cuckoldress,the cuck and the bull?

A. Cuckolding. A love and appreciation for the role each plays.

Q. What’s the biggest turn on about it for the woman…from the guys point of view I’ve been there and understand it but always have been curious about the real and actual turn-ons for the lady?

A. I can only speak for myself but the turn on for me in it all is how my cuck reacts to what I’m doing or saying. When he gets turned on then I get turned on – but that dynamic only works when it’s someone I love and care about.

Q. What is the most humiliating thing that a bull makes the cuck do?

A. Probably a bull who fucks the cuck or makes him clean up. I’m not into bulls who involve cucks sexually but some are so I would assume that would be the most humiliating for a cuck.

Q. What would your advice be to someone who isn’t 100% sure if they want to try it but…maybe thinks he does? (single male btw)

A. Don’t. Personally I feel that if you are not sure if you are a cuck then you aren’t. This might be a controversial opinion but I feel like either you are hard wired to be a cuck or it’s just something you are curious about, just like if you were curious about trying out some kind of fetish or kink or something – and that’s not what cuckolding is. Cuckolding relationships are right for people who it’s a part of who they are, something they can’t live without, something they need in life to feel happy and fulfilled.

Q. How do you find the right cage? He’s big and can’t find a cage that fits so it’s not painful.

A. Don’t every buy an off-the-shelf cage. It will never fit right. Invest in a custom made cage and it will be the only cage he will ever need. Just make sure he measures himself very carefully before ordering it. Mature metal makes beautiful cages:

Q. Does your husband watch? Do you keep your ring on?

A. I’m not married but if I was he would watch if I wanted him to, and of course I would keep my ring on – I have nothing to hide.

Q. Can a woman who doesn’t have or has never displayed any kind of dominance or assertiveness in a relationship (even in private) really be a cuckoldress?

A. Good question. A cuckoldress – I doubt it. Perhaps a hotwife would be more likely.

Q. What do you think about friend-zone cuckolding?

A. I don’t know what this is??

Venus xo

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The most obvious answer

“I need love, adoration, connection, and emotional intimacy from my cuck and I also need big black dick to fuck me deep on the regular.”

Venus xo

Recently I asked some people if they had any questions for me related to cuckolding relationships and although I received many great questions, one stood out from them all only because I’m so puzzled as to why people keep asking it; the answer seems so obvious to me.

Why don’t you just date a black guy if you like them so much?

Ugh. This one annoys the fuck out of me.

I get it, it seems like a valid question right? I mean yes I do love fucking black guys…REALLY love fucking them. So much that I mean why wouldn’t I want that for the rest of my life right?

Sure if that was all I needed to feel fulfilled in life then fuck yes I would pursue that. But have I been writing about anything else the past 4 years? Anything??? Maybe CUCKOLDING??

Listen, I will say this one loud for the people in the back…. I love BBC, I love cuckolding relationships, and I need BOTH of them to feel happy and fulfilled in my life and I’m willing to bet that means getting what I need from one cuck and at least a hand full of black guys.

I need love, adoration, connection, and emotional intimacy from my cuck and I also need big black dick to fuck me deep on the regular. It’s not difficult to understand. That’s just the way I am wired. This lifestyle, this kind of relationship is what I’m made for. It’s part of me, part of who I am, and what makes me feel comfortable. I can be who I really am. Love me for the slut that I am and give me the freedom to fuck and I will in turn give you my heart for the rest of our lives.

It seems pretty simple to me.

Venus xo

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Cuckolding is a two way street

“Sure I like how seemingly selfish and unfair cuckolding is compared to hotwifing but when you think of it, if that’s the way he loves it then really it’s about perception.”


I briefly touched on this 3 years ago but now I would like to expand upon it. Cuckolding relationships are obviously amazing – I mean I have spent so much time writing about how incredible they can be and while they certainly aren’t for everyone, for the ones who this kind of lifestyle suits, it can feel like something beautifully natural.

In my experience cuckolding with someone I love is very much a two way compersion street. As much as it may seem like these cuckolding scenarios focus mainly around the woman getting her sexual needs met, it’s actually more about the emotional dance going on between her and her cuck. Ask any really good bull and he will tell you that in that room, the sex is about her but the moment is truly about the emotional radio waves between her and her cuck.

When my cuck is turned on it turns me on as well. When I am turned on, he gets turned on and it’s this wonderful continuous emotional loop. So it’s important to me that my cuck is enjoying himself. That’s why it is difficult for me to answer questions about how I feel a cuck should act and it’s also why humiliation is so fluid and completely dependent on the people involved. If he’s not into it then I’m not likely going to be either but if he does get turned on by it then it’s something I will likely run with.

Having said all of that, it really does take two people who love to see each other’s needs fulfilled – and that’s not something that should be unique to cuckolding relationships. Sure I like how seemingly selfish and unfair cuckolding is compared to hotwifing but when you think of it, if that’s the way he loves it then really it’s about perception.

Cuckolding is about love; love that we show in ways that society would consider to be taboo. If both people are happy, fulfilled, and in love, then who cares about what other people think. They don’t know what they’re missing.

Venus xo

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A Queen of Spades tattoo

“The Queen of Spades tattoos are a huge turn on for both cucks and bulls. Cucks feel like it puts them in their place and black bulls love the dedication to them. It’s great.”


One of the things people ask me about a lot is my Queen of Spades tattoos. I have three of them, one on my ankle, one right above my pussy, and one on the back of my neck. For those of you who don’t know, a Queen of Spades tattoo signals to people that I prefer sleeping with black men.

A little over four years ago I first came across the symbol online and a few weeks later, got my first one – it’s the one right above my pussy. People always ask me what the tattoo artist said when I got it done, and honestly it’s not a very exciting story, he didn’t know what it meant so was not a big deal. A few weeks after that I went to Phoenix to see a cuck and while he was in chastity and I was straddled over him he took some beautiful photos – one of my absolute favourite ones is widely shared on the internet now but you can see it in the Venus Vault. It’s so stunning…so symbolic, a piece of art.

About a year later I got the same Queen of Spades tattoo on my ankle, with the name of my late cuck under it. That one obviously has a lot of meaning to me and I don’t talk about that part of my life much.

The most recent one on the back of my neck is of a crown with a ring of spades around it (also in the Venus Vault). Although it’s a Queen of Spades tattoo, it does take some interpreting to understand it. I get asked about that one a lot at work when I wear my hair up and I usually just say something about loving the symbolism of a crown and that’s it.

Countless people have asked me what people say about my ankle tattoo when I’m in public and the answer is they don’t. No one has ever known what it means and said something to me about it. Maybe it’s where I live (no one here seems to know anything about this sort of thing) or maybe people are just too shy I don’t know but it’s not like I hide it. I go to the beach, wear skirts out downtown, and go to the indoor swimming pool and still no one even looks at me like they know what it means. I think far more people in the US know what it means and I’m more likely to get comments about it down there.

Regardless of the lack of comments, the Queen of Spades tattoos are a huge turn on for both cucks and bulls. Cucks feel like it puts them in their place and black bulls love the dedication to them. It’s great. Will I be getting any more QoS tattoos? I don’t think so. Three is enough for me. Will I want one for my cuck? I don’t know. I like the idea but I haven’t seen one I like yet.

Am I worried that one day I might regret my tattoos? No I doubt it. I love them. They are part of who I am and I’m proud of them. I hope I inspire other women to get a Queen of Spades tattoo as well.

Venus xo

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Love of the lock and key

“I’m here to say YES it is possible for you to lock up and YES you can do it and believe it or not you will actually appreciate it in a way you never thought was possible.”


There are some aspects of cuckolding relationships that I admit, some people think of as ‘extreme’. Chastity is one of them. I’m a fan. I love holding keys.

Nothing scares a guy more than the mention of chastity. It’s an automatic response: “There’s no way I could do that.”. I think it’s funny that’s always the exact reaction followed by “I need to jerk off every day – it just would never work.”. I’m here to say YES it is possible for you to lock up and YES you can do it and believe it or not you will actually appreciate it in a way you never thought was possible.

Because chastity is way more of a mental challenge than a physical one – for me and for you. The first few days are going to be the most challenging and I hate this part. You’re going to be anxious, needy, and probably going to be getting on my nerves. Luckily after a few weeks you figure it out and get used to being locked. You start to feel more mentally focused, on work and on me and things in your life other than jerking off have more importance to you now. After a few months (or sooner) you begin to feel like the cage is part of your body and part of who you are. Being unlocked is great but you actually want to be locked up again – yes believe me on this one!

For me, I will always remember the first time I held keys. It felt like I had so much power and control knowing I could lock or unlock him at any time. I would wear them on a chain around my neck and occasionally casually touch the key with my hand and think about his cage so snug and tight…I loved it. I’ve held keys for a few people since and the longest I’ve kept someone locked has been about 3 months although the length of time is not as important to me as us together enjoying the time he’s locked.

Having said all of that I want to stress the importance of investing in a good quality chastity cage. Don’t waste your time and money on an off the shelf cheap made in China cage. It will pinch or rub in all the wrong places and it will probably break in no time. I would recommend a custom made stainless steel cage. You can take some careful measurements and then have one made exactly the right size. You’ll likely never need to buy another cage after that.

For the women and men out there who are at least curious about chastity I would say do some research about it, talk to some people who have done it, and try it. Trust me – you’ll love it.

Venus xo

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Truth and jealousy

“Cuckolding demands a high level of trust and communication and it continually challenges it in many ways. If there is the slightest waver, it will all eventually come crashing down. It’s no wonder most cuckold relationships begin with an already established and committed long term bond- it’s necessary.”


The complicated emotions involved in a cuckold relationship is what makes it so complex and beautiful. It’s a roller coaster of emotions and feelings, some lasting a moment, and some linger for days, but all are necessary to maintain that incredible bond between each other.

Trust is the most important aspect that anchors a cuckold relationship. If I can’t trust him then there’s no moving on from that. No cuckold relationship can function properly without a solid foundation built on trust – trust you give each other again and again without question. Trust should be a silent steady comfort, something that is a gift you give despite being vulnerable for it. Cuckolding demands a high level of trust and communication and it continually challenges it in many ways. If there is the slightest waver, it will all eventually come crashing down. It’s no wonder most cuckold relationships begin with an already established and committed long term bond- it’s necessary. From what I have heard, women are most likely to make mistakes when it comes to trust in a cuckold relationship.

Many people think that jealousy is a normal part of cuckolding – I disagree. Cuck angst is that beautiful dance of emotions…jealousy, sexual attraction, love, and anxiety, that cucks feel when the woman they love engages with another man and it’s quite different from jealousy alone. Jealousy is a negative emotion. It complicates and erodes relationships and with it the trust is lost as well. This can be a common mistake that cucks make when they are new in a cuckold relationship. Navigating this emotion can be really difficult and that’s part of why I always say that despite people thinking cucks are weak, they actually are incredibly strong – they have to be. It’s not easy!

Venus xo

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