What you thought you knew about cuckolding

New episode!

This episode kicks off the new “Ask Venus” hotline part of the show where listeners get to contribute to the podcast with their questions, comments, and feedback. First up is a woman who is looking for advice on where to find single cucks online, next there’s some hilarious feedback on the “When she goes black” episode on interracial cuckolding, and lastly it’s a cuck question about what’s hotter: being in the room or not being there at all?

This episode is all about busting the common myths and stereotypes of cuckolding relationships. What’s in it for him? Women must be sluts to want this right? Cucks must be weak and pathetic right? Isn’t cuckolding emotionally damaging? It’s a wild world out there chalk full of misconceptions and some just purely bullshit ideas about what all of this is about so join Venus as she dives right in to bring some truth and clarity to it all.

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The Venus Hotline

Venus joins Dan Savage on the Savage Lovecast

I was beyond flattered and thrilled to get an invitation to join Dan Savage as a guest on the Savage Lovecast Podcast.

Here’s the link! https://www.savagelovecast.com/episodes/722#.X0XQA8hKiM8 Just a head’s up that guest appear on the “Magnum” versions of episodes and not the shorter ones.

I’ve been a Dan Savage fan for over a decade and it’s because of his hugely popular column Savage Love, that I first learned about non-monogamy, and that was what led me down the road to where I am today. Obviously I’m hugely grateful for his influence on my life!

Here’s a little bit about Dan, taken from his website www.savagelovecast.com:

Dan Savage is an author, a sex-advice columnist, a podcaster, a pundit, and a public speaker.

“Savage Love,” Dan’s sex-advice column, first appeared in the The Stranger, Seattle’s alternative weekly, in 1991. The column is now syndicated to more than 50 papers across the United States and Canada.

Dan has published six books. His newest book, American Savage, will be published in May of 2013. In 2010 Dan and his husband Terry Miller founded the It Gets Better Project. The IGBP has gathered tens of thousands of videos from people all over the world offering hope to LGBT kids. The book—It Gets Better: Coming Out, Overcoming Bullying, and Creating a Life Worth Living—was a New York Times best seller. In 2012 the It Gets Better Project was awarded an Emmy.

Dan is a regular contributor to public radio’s This American Life. He is a also a frequent guest on The Colbert Report, Real Time with Bill Maher, and other television programs. In the fall of 2011 MTV filmed Dan as he toured colleges performing “Savage Love Live,” the live version of his sex-advice column. That tour became the basis for the 2012 MTV program “Savage U.”

In 2006 Dan launched the Savage Lovecast, a weekly, call-in advice podcast. It is now one of iTunes top 50 podcasts. Dan’s graphic, pragmatic, and humorous advice has changed the cultural conversation about monogamy, gay rights, religiosity, and politics. Dan lives in Seattle with his husband, their son, and a one-eyed, deaf poodle named Stinker.

This is one of my favourite Dan Savage videos. If you haven’t already watched it – you absolutely must! It’s brilliant and hilarious!

Venus xo

Your chance to ask Venus!

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Do you have some feedback you’d like to share? Now you can submit your question/feedback/comment and it might be used on The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast!

It’s super easy – just click the button below and send! You will have up to 5 minutes of recording time. Please note that by submitting your recording, you consent to its use on The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast.

The Venus List

It’s a list of Venus’s favourite things (some of them explicit) so here we go!

Favourite:

cuckolding moment
porn videos
Venus interview
blog post
new blogs
place to meet bulls
femdom aspects within cuckolding
dick pics
first dates
outfits for bulls
cuck tease/humiliation
turn-ons
kinds of bulls
sex positions
things to do for my bulls
sex toys
lifestyle events

The ultimate guide to dating in the cuckold lifestyle

It’s one of the most common questions I get asked – where can I find a woman who is into this? Do you invest time into a vanilla relationship and then after things progress, bring it up to her and hope she goes for it? Do you put it out there right away in the beginning and risk rejection? How do you even bring it up to her? How do you know she might be interested? So many questions right?! Where do you even begin?

I’ve spent years dating in this lifestyle and I’ve experienced it all, from a woman’s perspective of course, and now I’ve put together an extensive episode with all of my tips, advice, and things to avoid when dating in the cuckold lifestyle. This is a long one so get out your notepad and get ready to take some notes. I’ve also included chapter markers for quick reference.

Venus xo

Shining a light on the cuck perspective

For all of the absolute shit that 2020 has brought to the world there has been one really incredible trend that I’ve noticed. Over the past couple of months there have been several new blogs that popped up and I am so happy about it. For all of the porn fantasy shit that saturates the cuckolding lifestyle, it’s so refreshing to have something that reflects the beautiful reality of true loving cuckolding relationships.

These blogs are well thought out and definitely get you thinking and reflecting. Here they are:

The Geeky Cuckold – you can find him on Twitter here: https://twitter.com/TheGeekyCuckold

The Confident Cuck – also on Twitter https://twitter.com/ConfidentCuck

Cuckoldress Scarlet she’s on Twitter too: https://twitter.com/CuckoldressS

Cuckold Kisses – he’s on Twitter https://twitter.com/CuckoldKisses

A couple more blogs that have been around for a while but are also great:

Cuckold Marriage – Anne – she is also on Twitter https://twitter.com/AnneCuckoldress

The Goddess Worshipping Blog – find him on Twitter here https://twitter.com/wokewhtknight

For more helpful resources visit the Recommended Resources page.

Venus xo

New episode – how do I get my wife into this?

This is where I do my best to answer the one question that I’ve been asked the most over the years….how do I get my wife into this? How do I bring it up? What’s the best approach? What if she hates the idea? There are so many things to take into consideration it’s no wonder there are so many men looking for answers. In this new episode I do my best to try to provide some answers and give some helpful advice, tips, and suggestions so that hopefully you’ll have a positive outcome. Take notes for this one!

Venus xo

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Cuck Fear – new episode

Yup I’ve gone and disturbed the hornets nest with this one haha! As if the blog post about cuck fear wasn’t controversial enough, I had to go and do a lengthy podcast episode about it. Love it or hate it, agree or disagree, this one will be food for thought for many of you I’m sure.

Enjoy!

Venus xo

Venus – The Goddess Worshipper Interview

“Black men have taken the top spot for alpha male sexuality and it’s well deserved. It’s absolutely true. It’s interesting that the popularity of sites like Blacked.com have surged and simultaneously searches for cuck porn have also gone through the roof. Coincidence? I doubt that. “

Venus
The Goddess Worshipper Blog

Recently I sat down with the Goddess Worshipper Blog to talk about all things interracial cuckolding. The blog, which has been around for 5 years now, promotes female empowerment and features women from all over the world. This was my opportunity to really share my thoughts and feelings on a variety of aspects within this lifestyle so please check it out and share it with others, especially women!

https://goddessworshipping.blogspot.com/2020/04/exclusive-interview-with-venus.html

Venus xo

The ugly side of cuckolding popularity

Let’s face it, interest in cuckolding is at an all time high. This surge in popularity has come at a price though. What cuckolding has been in the past has quickly become distorted online and why exactly is that important? Why does that matter?

This episode exposes the ugly side of cuckolding popularity and why it might have something to do with why there aren’t more women into this kind of thing and also why it’s so hard for husbands to get their wife into it.

I know this podcast episode is going to be controversial and many people won’t agree with what I have to say but it’s something that only years of being exposed to different aspects of the online cuckolding world has given me a unique opportunity to look critically at cuckolding as a whole – where the flaws are and where improvements can be made.

Venus xo

And in case you missed my last episode with the Priory Society, here it is!

Venus in the flesh – Priory Society

Last month I had the chance to sit down in studio with the hosts of the Priory Society Podcast in LA and talk about the truth and misconceptions about cuckolding relationships, hot cuckolding experiences, tease and humiliation, hotwifing, tips for bulls, dating in the lifestyle, why I’m a size queen, safety tips for women, and even tips for women’s health! It was crazy hot and so hilarious – lots of laughs all around!

Have a listen and enjoy!

Venus xo

Interracial Cuckolding

Interracial cuckolding…it’s crazy popular. Interracial porn is in massive demand. That dark skin, his big black dick, her pale soft skin, she’s on her knees….the scenario plays over and over again. White guys love it and cuckolding couples are seeking out black bulls more now than ever.

In this episode I explore my thoughts on why this is such a hot trend right now, what the difference really is between the sex appeal and capabilities of black guys versus white guys. I also share my stories about my first time fucking a black guy as my boyfriend sat unsuspectingly in another room, and how I truly went black and never went back – totally naturally.

Venus xo

Women LOVE cuckolding

This is the one episode that all women need to listen to: all of the reasons why women should absolutely love this kind of relationship. With all of the content out there that comes from the male perspective (and there’s so much of it) this time it’s all straight up from a woman’s point of view. From love, trust, excitement, empowerment and confidence, to asking for what you want and getting it every fucking time (yes!) this has it all.

Enjoy!

Venus xo

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What’s a bull?

For those of you who are just learning about what cuckolding relationships are all about, no doubt at some point you’re going to wonder what a bull is. Why is it called that? What physical and sexual characteristics does a bull usually have and why is it so important (and difficult) to find the right one?

Join me in this podcast episode as I delve into the unique role of the bull within cuckolding relationships and try to explain how mind blowing the experiences can be for you all when you find the bull you really want and need. Also learn about the red flags of bad bull behaviour and the green flags you should look out for with the good ones.

Enjoy!

Venus xo

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All cucked up – with Casual Swinger

This is my return to the Casual Swinger Podcast to talk all things cuckolding with the always insightful and hilarious Mickey and Mallory. The first episode was so much fun and this one doesn’t disappoint either! Some of the topics covered are: sexually empowering women in this lifestyle, defining a cuckoldress, real love in cuckolding, hotwifing, what makes a great cuckoldress, loving humiliation explained, how to approach your wife with this lifestyle, the real strength of cucks, and talking about the incredible Jack and Kissy episode where they explained their wedding night fantasy that came true – hotness! Also don’t miss my advice for couples who want to start exploring this beautiful dynamic. Enjoy!

International Women’s Day March 8, 2020

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The art of the tease

For a long time I’ve said that guys who are cucks have to be wired in a way to love this. Cuck scenarios, humiliation, and sexual denial have to create cuck angst (a mix of turned on, anxious, nervousness etc) in order for him to actually enjoy it and women need to be able to dish it out in a loving way and cuckolding relationships are about the woman including the guy she loves in some way when it comes to her sexual adventures with other men. This episode is all about exploring ways women can do that, so for women who maybe are just curious about cuckolding or couples who need some new ideas, this is the episode for you.

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How it all began

How did you get into cuckolding? It’s one of the most common questions I get from men and women. Well, this podcast episode is all about the events in my life that led up to how I became a cuckoldress and exactly how my first cuckolding relationship started.

Join me for 20 minutes as I talk about my slutty high school days, finding Dan Savage’s Savage Love column, my sexual exploration in the non-monogamy world, how I met my first cuck, and of course details about what that first cuckolding experience was like for me…..spoiler alert – it’s super hot!!

Venus xo

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The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast

Introducing The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast! Thank you to all of my friends who have encouraged me to create my own podcast about the beautiful world of cuckolding and now here it is!

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Cucks are their own worst enemy

“They’re focusing entirely on the sexual acts/fantasies of cuckolding and haven’t stopped to realize that they only know about 2% of what cuckolding really is, and they will never know because they will never experience a real loving cuckold relationship, and all because they will never even learn how to approach women with respect and simply focus on building something real.”

Venus

There’s no way around it – this post is going to sound like I’m shitting on cucks. Sorry in advance.

First let me start out by saying that over the years I have met some couples and single cucks who I love and adore and whose friendships will likely last a lifetime and I’m so grateful to have met these beautiful, respectful, classy people but this post is about the countless number of cucks who are out there behaving like morons. This one is for you.

Today I came across a woman around the same age as me who is trying to navigate the dating world of single cucks and let’s just say, it sucks. Her stories are all too familiar to me; single cucks are forever stuck with one foot outside of the cuck closet and unable to get the courage to come on out and experience this beautiful relationship for what it is, and they are obsessed with using her as a temporary fetish dispenser so they can endlessly jerk off about it. This bad behaviour is an epidemic going on within this lifestyle and it’s not good for anyone but especially detrimental to women who have the courage to want this kind of relationship.

Imagine being a single woman and putting yourself out there, seeking this kind of relationship and being bombarded online by cucks who seem interested but really are only interested in using you for jerk off material. All they want to do is ask you a thousand questions about how you would cuck them so they can get all hot and bothered and rub one out again and again – they’re not going to ask her anything else, not get to know her, not treat her like an actual person. That alone is enough for a woman to say fuck it and never come back to this. But no, she also has to deal with the usual catfish, crazy stalkers, and married guys pretending to be single. But the worst of it is…when she finds a guy who she really likes and when it comes time to meet…poof he’s gone. He locked himself firmly into the cuck closet again, never to be heard from again. Over and over again she has experienced this and the stories from other women are similar across the board.

I get it – cuckolding is hot as fuck. Obviously I get that. But for fuck’s sakes can’t more people online give it some credibility and make it more about dating or relationships than just porn?? Just look at what kind of environment has been created online – it’s a sea of male fantasy bullshit driven porn – certainly not female friendly in any way. No fucking wonder there aren’t more women into this. No fucking wonder wives are hesitant to even consider it. No wonder guys don’t take it seriously. For example there are married cucks online posting naked pics of their wives (faces and personal info) in chat rooms just for the purpose of jerking off when a bull makes comments about it. I seriously fucking doubt the wife has consented! What in the actual fuck are you doing to your relationship, the disrespect for your wife, the perception of cuckolding relationships to anyone who sees that??

So many cucks are just mentally warped by the heroin for masturbation which is all over the internet and it’s created a rampant toxic cuck mentality and that is now a massive turn off for women. They’re making the mistake of focusing entirely on the sexual acts/fantasies of cuckolding and haven’t stopped to realize that they only know about 2% of what cuckolding really is, and they will never know because they will never experience a real loving cuckold relationship, and all because they will never even learn how to approach women with respect and simply focus on building something real.

A big part of what I do is talk about cuckolding relationships so that women will consider it as a valid relationship option and yet I also feel sorry for the women who decide to do just that. I cringe to think about what it’s going to be like for them once they go through what the rest of us go through and I just pray that they won’t give up on it.

Cucks need to set the bar higher for each other, stop acting like fantasy driven pigs, and ask yourself how you are contributing to this on a bigger level. Either that or stop complaining to me about how it’s so hard to find women who are looking for a cuck relationship – I don’t want to fucking hear it anymore.

Venus xo

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“How do I get my wife into this?”

“First of all let me say that I believe this is not going to be right for most women. It takes a certain kind of woman to love this and want it for the rest of her life and odds are that won’t be your wife so be prepared for that answer.”

Venus

It’s the million dollar question I get asked all the time and I never have a really good answer for it. But for this blog post I will try my best to address this for all of you husbands out there.

Nearly all cuckolding relationships start out with a long term relationship where the husband approaches the wife with the idea – I don’t know why but that’s the usual beginnings of it. Rarely a wife will bring it up with her husband, and even more rare is when a relationship starts out with two people who are looking for a cuckold relationship. Sometimes it happens when the wife cheats and there is a discussion to try cuckolding after that but that’s not all that common either.

So it’s usually a case where the husband is wondering how to approach his wife about it or he has and she is not on board and he wants to know how to “convince” her. No wonder I get asked about it so often.

First of all let me say that I believe this is not going to be right for most women. It takes a certain kind of woman to love this and want it for the rest of her life and odds are that won’t be your wife so be prepared for that answer. As hard as that answer is to hear, you need to ask yourself if you will be okay with that result (it’s just not for her) and then ask yourself what that ultimately means for you. Can you be happy without it or is this something that you need long term to feel fulfilled? Those are tough questions that you will need to address. Also be prepared to accept that she may be open to trying it but not likely to love it in a way that will see her participate long term.

If you are not sure how to approach her then start working on communication in your relationship. If you’re not sure how to do that then perhaps seek some help from a counselor or therapist who is open minded to these kinds of relationship dynamics. Communication skills in a relationship are fundamental and worth the time and money you invest into it and sexual compatibility is just as important as love, trust, and connection so make it a top priority.

Do not approach it like it’s something weird – talk about it as something that bonds and connects you. Make it less about the sex with others and more about the experiences you are creating together. This is a journey you would like to take with her so let her know that she is in the driver’s seat – this is about her and the love you feel when she is able to fully express her sexuality, feel desired, and be completely sexually fulfilled.

If you’ve talked to her and she wants to do some research online please tell her to be careful or at least guide her in the right direction. Mainstream cuck porn is not what she needs to watch (it’s unrealistic garbage), amature is better but still doesn’t portray what’s really happening, and Tumblr and Twitter is just going to be a sea of jerk off material for fantasy driven cucks and a bizarre collection of findom factories spewing out some false narrative about slave cuckolding – all of which will make her run in the other direction.

If she is still interested and wants to learn more, it would be wise to try and connect with other couples in your area or online who she can feel comfortable talking to. Friendships between women in this lifestyle are priceless. Do whatever you can to help her form friendships so she can feel like she can ask questions to someone other than you. Trust me she will appreciate this.

Lastly, don’t pressure her. This is what I hear a lot from husbands, that they continue to try all sorts of tactics to “convince” her. I swear if that was me I would be so annoyed. Give her some space and time and opportunities to think about what you’re proposing. It can be a big decision for her so respect that. And remember, it might just not be something she will ever want. You may have to accept that.

Venus xo

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