Cheaters

It’s been a little while now that I’ve been navigating the world of dating and looking for my future cuck husband. It’s been less than fun. In fact it’s been a fucking disaster most times, to be honest. 

I’ve written on here before about how so many cucks are stuck in the closet, this continues to be the case. I get it – it’s all hot fantasy until it becomes real. Then it’s fucking scary for you cucks and you flake out. I understand. 

But what really pisses me off is how many times I get pursued by guys who are fucking married! Of course they don’t advertise the fact that they are married or are in a committed relationship…they are all pretending to be single. Lying, cheating assholes and a complete waste of my time. 

This hasn’t happened to me once, twice, or even three times. No it’s actually happened at least 10 times. This is a fucking epidemic in this lifestyle and it’s really despicable. This isn’t fair to your wife or to me, and truly I feel sorry for you that you are stuck in a vanilla relationship with someone who won’t support your needs but really you have got to stop continuing to live a lie.

Finding love is hard enough, aligning your kinks is even harder, so guys please stop this shitty behavior. 

Converting those vanilla boys

I’ve heard stories from cucks who have tried to bring their girlfriends or just women in general, into this lifestyle and they’ve all been largely unsuccessful. Many women just don’t grasp the concept or judge it harshly, or if they do try it they are likely just doing it for him and not because it’s part of who they are. For me, this lifestyle is who I am and I do it for me. That’s what I think the difference is between a successful cuck relationship and one that is not. That just my theory anyways, I know many people will disagree. 

But what would it be like for me to try to bring a “vanilla” guy into this? For a long time I just assumed it would never work so I’ve never tried. But recently I figured I might as well try it since I live in a seemingly cuckless city. So off to Tinder I went to try to seduce some vanilla boys and my oh my…was I in for a surprise! 

My first profile attempt was quite boring. I didn’t reference anything about cuckolding, just a little blurb about me being non-monogamous. I didn’t really have my hopes up that I would actually find anything on that shitty dating app. 

I matched with a guy and we started talking. He asked me what I want and I said I want you to be faithful and I want to sleep with lots of black guys and I want to be in charge in the bedroom. Surprisingly he said he liked that idea so we gave it a try. 

He lives in a different city anyways but is moving to Vancouver so for now things would be by distance. He mentioned he didn’t want to know about my experiences with black guys though and I was like whatever that’s fine for now. Then after a few weeks he asked me about the last time I fucked a black guy. I was surprised that he wanted to hear the details as I hadn’t mentioned anything about cuckolding. So I told him all about the two black guys I fucked the day before. He loved it. Then he asked if he could watch sometime. I was like WTF really??!! Hell yes! 

I was just amazed that without much influence from me, he was embracing the cuck role on his own and loving every minute of it. Could it really be this easy?

So that got me wondering and I decided to do a little more experimenting with Tinder. It was time to make another profile. 

My next profile is a veiled face pic and a pic of my queen of spades tattoo on my ankle, as well as the following text:

“I know exactly what I want and it’s probably not going to be you” #femdom #cucklife “if interested swipe up”

So nothing too scary – I don’t think anyways – but just enough to give some obvious hints as to what I’m looking for. I figured if they swipe up for a super like then I know they’ve at least read my profile and can follow instructions. 

Well it didn’t take long for my phone to light up with notifications. I couldn’t believe how many guys were genuinely interested and wanted to know more. 

Maybe this cuck wasteland I live in wasn’t actually a wasteland? Maybe my theory has been correct and they indeed are locked in the cuck closet and the closet is tinder! 

So now I have more (potential) cucks lined up than I have time to actually meet. Interesting spot to be in. Who knows if any of them will turn out to be what I want and if there is some sort of off the charts chemistry, and who knows how many of them like the idea of it but can’t do it for real, I don’t know, but it’s a start anyways. 
Venus xo

Dating as a Cuck – Part 3

Here’s part 3 of Jay’s series on what it’s like to be a cuck in the dating scene. For this one he has interviewed his friend Anne. Anne is a married QoS and cuckoldress living in the North West who’s been very gracious to discuss her lifestyle. This is what she has to say:

J: Thank you so much for doing this!

A: Of course!

J: So why don’t you say a bit about yourself. I know we’ve known each other for a while but pretend like we’ve just met haha.

A: Well I’m 37, live in the Pacific North West. I’ve been married for about ten years now to my loving husband. We currently do not have any children though we would like to have a child in the near future. Although being childless at the moment allows us to put a lot of time into our very hectic work life.

J: Awesome. So could you explain the relationship dynamic you share with your husband?

A: Well Tom and I are in a female led relationship and along with being my loving husband, he is also my cuckold. It is absolutely not your typical relationship haha.

J: Can you describe how the relationship developed?

A: Sure. So I met Tom in college. We shared the same major, had a lot of classes together. He was very cute, and I actually approached him first haha. We ended up dating for about a year or so, but I started to lose attraction to him. It was a bit of an odd feeling as I really liked him but just didn’t want to be physical with him. I didn’t know how to end it, and being a stupid 21 year old, I cheated on him with a guy on the football team. I felt terrible, but our football team was one of the best in the nation, and the football players were basically celebrities on campus. Every girl was swooning after them. They were also way more masculine than Tom, I mean you’ve seen football players, they’re quite the physical specimens haha. And a 21 year old girl with options can’t help herself around guys like that.

J: So you cheated, and then what?

A: Well we broke up. It was a mutual breakup, but I felt so bad for Tom and I decided to remain friends. In the meanwhile, I began to see guys on the football team more frequently. I was especially attracted to some of the black guys on the team. I went to an all girls catholic high school and lived in a sheltered suburb growing up, so part of it was a novelty thing. But they also had a certain confidence that I never saw in white guys, I guess you could say a swagger. I loved the way they dressed and talked and danced. And they were unbelieveable in bed, I mean life changing honestly. Smooth velvety skin and big soft lips that would completely envelope mine. And they knew exactly how to treat a woman. It was like nothing I’d ever had before. So I tended to only sleep with black guys from that point on.

J:Ahh so that’s when you got hooked! I had always wondered haha.

A: Yup! So after college I began to work at an ad agency. Quickly worked my way up the ladder, which is super tough as a woman in that industry just so you know. But I eventually became a mid-level VP. Didn’t have boyfriend but I was still in contact with Tom. One day Tom said he was looking for a new job and I told him we were hiring. So he applied, and ended up getting the job. His very first day after work he asks me on a date, and we ended up completely rekindling what we used to have. I was in love with him, but the sex was such a let down. Tom has a very thin below average penis and just could not come anywhere close to providing the same sensations as the black guys I was with. He’s also only a few inches taller than me and has a slim build, and I’m a bit of a thick gal so I need a tall muscular guy in order to really be pushed around how I like to be. I didn’t want to hurt his feelings, so I asked if he would be open to swinging. He said yes, and I was thrilled because I could finally get my BBC fix haha.

J: So how do you get from that to where you are now?

A: Well Tom quickly picked up on my affinity for black guys haha. We began to experiment and he allowed me to invite one of my favorite swinging partners into our bedroom for a threesome. I believe that’s when Tom began to see his place. I mean I could tell by the look in Tom’s eyes, he was intimidated by the other guy. And I could see his stomach drop when he got a look at my partner’s massive BBC. But it was funny cause I noticed that I was actually turned on by Tom being intimidated. In the past I felt bad about telling Tom about his shortcomings, but now it seemed to be a turn on. Looking back on it, I guess it was only natural. I mean I was essentially Tom’s boss and earned way more than him, I’d strut around the office in heels and tower over him, despite me cheating on him and breaking his heart he still wanted to be friends with me. So after that night I began to start seeing other guys on my own without Tom, and that more or less was the start of our current relationship. We didn’t make some grand decision to have a female led relationship, it was just very clear to the both of us that I was in charge. By the time I decided to marry him, I knew that I needed two kinds of men in my life. A man who I loved and could control, and a man who could control me. So Tom was perfect.

J: Wow that is kind of amazing haha. So what’s the relationship like now?

A: Oh I just wanna say something because I don’t want to come off as a bitch to the Internet haha. But I don’t mean to say that Tom is less of a man! He’s very smart, loving, ambitious, and kind which is what a man should be. He’s not a good sexual partner and many women would agree with me, but he’s not less of a man.

J: Well thank you for clearing that up, so what’s the relationship like now?

A: Well we have incorporated more femdom aspects over time. He is almost always in chastity. He gets a handjob once every two months but that depends on his behavior. Sex is never an option. When we decide to have kids obviously we’ll have sex but outside of that he will forever be celibate. I know sounds harsh but Tom is accepting of this. Hmm what else, well we’ve done strapon play at times and Tom does get spanked if he screws up haha. Since we don’t have kids I normally have a bull over three times a week but sometimes I’m so busy that I’ll go a few weeks without any action except for Tom’s tongue, which thankfully is fantastic haha. Other than that, my close group of friends know everything about our relationship, but outside of that small group we appear as a typical loving couple.

J: Well that was incredible to hear! Thank you so much for your time!

Dating as a Cuck – Part 2

Here it is, the sequel to my friend Jay’s post Dating as a Cuck – Part 1. I absolutely love what he’s written, especially the last part about asking yourself that important question…. Enjoy!

Venus xo

Dating as a Cuck – Part 2

In my last post, I discussed the hard truths that one must come to terms with before beginning a relationship with a cuckoldress. If you’ve truly done the proper introspective work and decided that you are prepared, you’ve only begun half the necessary work.

In this post, I will discuss an important next step towards having a successful cuckold relationship. It is the process of dissociating yourself from your penis. This is actually something that all men should work on, but cuckolds especially.

You, the first time cuck, have gone nearly your entire life with the interests of your penis somewhere on your priority list. When you tried to sit next to that pretty girl in class, or when you caught yourself checking out your co-worker with the nice butt, or when you compulsively scrolled through dating apps, your penis was guiding your actions.

Now at a fundamental level, this is only natural. We men are hard wired to mate as often as possible with a wide range of mates. But we are no longer cavemen, and in order to be an attractive cuck you must stop thinking with your dick. One main reason, as was stated in the last post, is that as a cuck, your gf or wife simply Does. Not. Care. About your dick. When she imagines being intimate or romantic with you, your dick never enters her thoughts. She thinks about dicks that are much longer, thicker, last longer, and get harder than yours. But as a cuck your dick never enters your partner’s mind, so don’t let it enter yours either.

The other reason, is that separating yourself from your dick will actually make you a better person. There are numerous studies that demonstrate the positive effects of abstaining from masturbation. These include raised testosterone levels, increased productivity, increased mood, increased levels of motivation. These are things that any man should want! Stopping masturbation will also stop you from watching porn, which is terrible behavior for a cuck and creates an innacurate depiction of the cuckold lifestyle and women in general. So overall, you will become a better person in general.

So how do you do this? Of course its easier to talk about than actually doing it, but there are many methods and tricks to begin separating yourself from your dick. The easiest method is chastity. Talk to your partner about the need for chastity if they have not already. I recommend ordering a custom cage that will fit you properly. A proper fit should feel snug when you’re completely flaccid, you should not be able to achieve an erection of any kind while locked up.

Ceasing masturbation and porn viewing is another method. Porn often triggers masturbation, so abstaining from adult websites can immensely improve your ability to separate yourself from your dick. The last method, is pure willpower. Really think about how badly you want to be a cuck, and how great your life will be improved with a cuckoldress in it. Think about that every time you get the urge to touch yourself.

This is one of the most fundamental steps to becoming a true cuck, and there’s an easy test to give yourself to figure out if you’re closer to becoming that ideal cuck. When you think about cuckolding, do you become aroused and get the urge to touch yourself? Or do you get a rush of warm emotions, and think about sharing a special powerful bond with your loved one? Be honest with yourself, and do the proper work to become a better boyfriend, cuck, and overall person.

Jay

How to catch a goddess 

You want a female centered or female led relationship with a beautiful, powerful, goddess of a woman right? Well let’s say you find one who is incredible and you want to date her. Now what do you need to do to make it happen? Here’s some advice about what you can do to really stand out from the rest and make a great impression from the start so pay attention, make notes, and then get to it!

1. Make an impression immediately 

Give her compliments, tell her you’re serious about your intentions, and ask her what you can do in order to stand out from the rest of the guys pursuing her. Sweep her off her feet right from the first day. 

2. Pay careful attention to her:

Listen carefully to what she says. Pick up on her likes, her dislikes, her preferences, favorite things, birthdays, etc. make getting to know everything about her your most important priority. Learn about what kinds of things or services she needs help with in her life right now. 

3. Be bold:

This is not the time to be passive, even if your nature is to be. Treat this challenge with the same level of intensity, assertiveness, and vigor, as if it was that dream job you are striving for and this is the all important make it or break it interview. Dress your best, smell great, pull out all the shots and be on point all the time. Be creative and driven. This is your one chance so don’t blow it. 

4. Give her what she needs and wants:

This is great advice so listen up… Instead of asking her what you can do for her, learn about what she needs and give it to her. She will be filled with gratitude. Does she hate doing housework? Hire a cleaning company to do it for her once a week. Does she have a sore back from her stressful job? Provide for her financially so she doesn’t have to work then send her to the spa regularly for massages. Is she overwhelmed with looking after the kids? Hire a nanny to help her out. Do not hesitate to do these things for her. Do it today. 

5. Shower her with thoughtful gifts:

Every girl appreciates a surprise gift, goddesses even more so. Send her flowers, her favorite perfume, a gift card for new lingerie, whatever…just send her something you think she might like. If her birthday is coming up then for sure do not forget to send her a gift. Neglecting to do so on her birthday or other special occasion would be inexcusable. 

6. Always follow through with what you say you will do:

Your word must be absolutely solid. If you say you will call her or text her every night before bed then make sure you do it. Every night. Before bed. Every time. Don’t say you will do something and then fail to do it, for whatever reason. If you feel like you might not be able to keep your promise, then tell her before you fuck up. 

7. Make her a priority:

Yes your work is likely stressful and work days are probably long more often than not, but it only takes 10 seconds to send her a text to say something short and sweet. Don’t let long periods go by without reminding her how much she means to you. If you’re thinking about her, tell her. A goddess deserves attention all the time. She wants it. Give it to her. 

8. Adore everything about her:

Love her fiercely, admire her unique qualities, respect her power and authority, and desire her every minute of every day. She is the centre of your universe. 

9. Be dedicated to her happiness:

When she is happy, you are happy therefore you do whatever it takes to ensure that her wants and needs are met. This starts from the moment you meet her and continues, without wavering, throughout. She will forever love you for it. 

10. Be of service to her:

Practice chivalry, hold open the door for her, carry her bags, anticipate when she will need your help with something. Don’t wait for her to ask you for help with something. Pamper her and tend to her needs. Run her errands for her, pour her bath for her, and be useful around the house. 

Dating as a Cuck – Part 1

You’ve all read about how difficult it’s been for me to find a good cuck boyfriend especially locally, so I decided to get some perspective on dating from a cuck friend of mine about what it’s like to try and find a cuckoldress in the dating world. I figure all of you cucks might enjoy reading about what he’s gone through and maybe relate to his experiences or learn a thing or two as well.

Jay is 27, lives in the Pacific Northwest, and had this to say about dating as a cuck:

“As a 27 year old cuck, attempting to date is a very daunting process. The pool of women who would even consider you is quite small, and if you don’t live in a major city, you might be completely out of luck. There’s an issue with age, as the many women looking for a cuck tend to be older. So if you’re looking for someone younger, or you find someone older and they’re looking for a cuck their age, then things become so much more difficult. You might have to rely on internet dating, and end up finding someone who’s perfect for you but lives hours away or perhaps on the other side of the country. And sometimes when all else fails, you might have to just settle for vanilla dating, and hope the other woman agrees to take on your lifestyle”

“But what if you actually do meet a cuckoldress who’s interested in you and wants to date you? You better truly be a cuck, because if you’re in all of this to satisfy some fetish, it will never ever work out. If arousal is motivating you to date a cuckoldress, you’ll be sadly disappointed. A cuckoldress wants her cuck to be happy and satisfied, but the last thing she could ever care about is your sexual satisfaction. If you actually do end up in a relationship, there’s a good chance she won’t want to have sex with you. There’s also a good chance she will never want to see your cock unless it’s locked up. As someone that has been in a few cuckold relationships, don’t even schedule that first date if you’re not prepared to accept the fact that your cock will be locked up as long as you are in that relationship. You better also try to understand what it’s like to truly be emasculated. She’s going to find men who are more handsome, more muscular, taller, and far more hung than you. They will sexually arouse your girlfriend more than you ever will, and they will give her more pleasure than you ever will. So before you even begin dating, there is a big decision you must make for yourself.”

What the fuck is wrong with cucks?

Today I’m feeling annoyed as fuck. And given that the reason behind that has to do with the cuck relationship in my life, I feel the need to vent a bit here. Not just to complain, but to seek answers. I genuinely need to know why this seems to be a phenomenon within many of the cuckolds who I’ve met.

Cuckold couples normally consist of a solid serious relationship, usually a long term committed couple or a married couple. For me, it needs to be that way because it’s that close emotional connection between us where all of the magic happens. To put it simply, this is not something I can do casually with someone. I’m looking for my life partner, not just dating for fun.

I get a lot of attention from cucks all over the world, who want to have a relationship with me. Apparently single cuckoldresses are even more rare than single cucks around here…. You’d think that this would be a good thing for me, which it is nice to have so many options, but it also takes a lot of time to sort through all of the emails and messages. Every person falls on a different part of the cuckolding spectrum and it takes several questions and answers back and forth to find out if what I’m looking for fits with what he’s looking for. It’s also tricky to find someone whom I have some sort of connection with and who I find attractive. Really sometimes I think I might need a personal assistant to help me!

So I happen to find one who I think might work out for me and he seems like he’s serious about everything. Great right? Yes. I’m happy, he’s happy, and we begin to make plans to move forward. Then suddenly he gets cold feet. He’s scared, terrified, or whatever I don’t know. He says things like it’s a vulnerable position being a cuckold and it takes some courage to actually live that life. Despite my best efforts to reassure him that it will all be good, he continues to drag his feet….something I have very little patience for.

Fantasizing about being cuckolded by your girlfriend or wife must be really hot, and it seems like this is a big thing for cucks out there. But within the past 9 months this has happened 3 times where the cuck is too terrified to make that fantasy become a reality. I have absolutely no interest in being someone’s online fantasy cuckoldress and I’d really like to not waste any more time with this so this shit is really getting annoying as fuck!

My question to the other cuckoldresses out there is: Is this something you’ve experienced as well? And my question to the cucks out there: What are your thoughts on this?

 

Venus xo

 

February 24, 2016 UPDATE

Thank you to all of the people who have commented and emailed me about this post. I’ve really appreciated hearing about this from your perspective and it’s helped me be able to sort it out a bit better in my head. Yes it seems like some are just more comfortable living this life in fantasy, and some are more brave and willing to make it into something real life. From what I’ve heard, these types of relationships start off as something very vanilla and work up to cuckolding later on.

I guess that’s where this situation for me is different. I’m looking to find my cuck match right up front and the vanilla stuff fall into place afterwards. I can understand how that lack of an established relationship base can make things feel unstable for a cuck especially right in the beginning and that might be what contributed to the problem. It might have something to do with that all three cucks lived far from me so it was a long distance relationship in the beginning as well – something that’s never easy.

Something I would like to make clear about this post though, is that over the past 9 months I have been pursued by, and considered dating, several other cucks – some of whom were very serious about a relationship and would not have had cold feet at any point. While I totally appreciated this from them, I just didn’t feel the connection I needed so didn’t pursue a relationship with them but I want to mention it so it’s clear that there are some really great cucks out there despite my challenges with a few others.

For now, I’ve given up on trying to date cucks long distance. It’s a lot of effort and the relationship stability just isn’t there for this kind of lifestyle. I really feel like the intimacy and trust that’s built in this kind of thing needs to be established in person.

I am optimistic though that I will find my cuck….it just might take a little longer.

 

Venus xo