What the fuck is wrong with cucks?

Today I’m feeling annoyed as fuck. And given that the reason behind that has to do with the cuck relationship in my life, I feel the need to vent a bit here. Not just to complain, but to seek answers. I genuinely need to know why this seems to be a phenomenon within many of the cuckolds who I’ve met.

Cuckold couples normally consist of a solid serious relationship, usually a long term committed couple or a married couple. For me, it needs to be that way because it’s that close emotional connection between us where all of the magic happens. To put it simply, this is not something I can do casually with someone. I’m looking for my life partner, not just dating for fun.

I get a lot of attention from cucks all over the world, who want to have a relationship with me. Apparently single cuckoldresses are even more rare than single cucks around here…. You’d think that this would be a good thing for me, which it is nice to have so many options, but it also takes a lot of time to sort through all of the emails and messages. Every person falls on a different part of the cuckolding spectrum and it takes several questions and answers back and forth to find out if what I’m looking for fits with what he’s looking for. It’s also tricky to find someone whom I have some sort of connection with and who I find attractive. Really sometimes I think I might need a personal assistant to help me!

So I happen to find one who I think might work out for me and he seems like he’s serious about everything. Great right? Yes. I’m happy, he’s happy, and we begin to make plans to move forward. Then suddenly he gets cold feet. He’s scared, terrified, or whatever I don’t know. He says things like it’s a vulnerable position being a cuckold and it takes some courage to actually live that life. Despite my best efforts to reassure him that it will all be good, he continues to drag his feet….something I have very little patience for.

Fantasizing about being cuckolded by your girlfriend or wife must be really hot, and it seems like this is a big thing for cucks out there. But within the past 9 months this has happened 3 times where the cuck is too terrified to make that fantasy become a reality. I have absolutely no interest in being someone’s online fantasy cuckoldress and I’d really like to not waste any more time with this so this shit is really getting annoying as fuck!

My question to the other cuckoldresses out there is: Is this something you’ve experienced as well? And my question to the cucks out there: What are your thoughts on this?

 

Venus xo

 

February 24, 2016 UPDATE

Thank you to all of the people who have commented and emailed me about this post. I’ve really appreciated hearing about this from your perspective and it’s helped me be able to sort it out a bit better in my head. Yes it seems like some are just more comfortable living this life in fantasy, and some are more brave and willing to make it into something real life. From what I’ve heard, these types of relationships start off as something very vanilla and work up to cuckolding later on.

I guess that’s where this situation for me is different. I’m looking to find my cuck match right up front and the vanilla stuff fall into place afterwards. I can understand how that lack of an established relationship base can make things feel unstable for a cuck especially right in the beginning and that might be what contributed to the problem. It might have something to do with that all three cucks lived far from me so it was a long distance relationship in the beginning as well – something that’s never easy.

Something I would like to make clear about this post though, is that over the past 9 months I have been pursued by, and considered dating, several other cucks – some of whom were very serious about a relationship and would not have had cold feet at any point. While I totally appreciated this from them, I just didn’t feel the connection I needed so didn’t pursue a relationship with them but I want to mention it so it’s clear that there are some really great cucks out there despite my challenges with a few others.

For now, I’ve given up on trying to date cucks long distance. It’s a lot of effort and the relationship stability just isn’t there for this kind of lifestyle. I really feel like the intimacy and trust that’s built in this kind of thing needs to be established in person.

I am optimistic though that I will find my cuck….it just might take a little longer.

 

Venus xo

Locked in the cuck closet?

I’ve come to the conclusion that there are exactly 4 cucks in the city I live in – that’s it. The rest of them I’m assuming don’t exist or are locked firmly in the cuck closet and only they have the key to come out.

I’ve spent several months trying to find guys who are into the cuck lifestyle and I’ve had the most success online. Surprisingly cucks are everywhere! Well, everywhere except for Vancouver. I’ve been contacted from all over the world but mainly from the United States, and as you can imagine, the distance can make it really difficult to date someone. Ugh…so frustrating!

Even on Fetlife there are bustling cuck forums in so many cities, and the Vancouver forums…well, it’s like you can hear crickets.

So how come there seems to be so many cucks internationally and so few here in rainy Vancouver? I have yet to figure out the answer to this burning question of mine….

Anyone out there know? I’d love to hear from you – comment away!

 

Venus xo

Diving head first into cuckolding

This is my story of how I got into the cuck lifestyle.

I had been involved in open relationships for several years and I knew that I wanted a non-monogamous relationship with someone however I wanted to have a lot of control over my own sexual freedom. I look back now and realize it was a cuck that I wanted but of course I didn’t know what that really was back then. Anyways back to my story….I was navigating the bland vanilla dating world (sigh) on Tinder, when I matched with this amazing guy who I will call…hmmm what will I call him….how about Ryan. Yes, Ryan.

I began to by telling Ryan how I had no intentions of being monogamous (something I would tell anyone who I considered dating) and he became quite interested in that. Over the next few days and weeks the flurry of exciting and intense conversations we had were all about me learning about his cuckolding fantasies and I admit I was quite wrapped up in it all. The more I learned about it, the more I loved it. I remember him saying “You’re going to get tired of me talking about it.” but actually I never did. I loved talking about it with him, I craved it, it turned me on in a way that I’d never experienced before.

He loved how I wanted to sleep with other men (while he was totally faithful to only me) and he encouraged that side of me. In fact he explained to me that being called a slut is a compliment – something I passionately agree with now. He would be so turned on when I told him about my sexual adventures and when I sent him pictures and videos, and I in turn got turned on by his reactions to it all. That sort of effect we had on each other was what made the relationship so intense, so magical, and so unique; I loved him deeply.

Eventually I made Ryan listen on the phone when I was with a guy. I was a bit nervous about it but obviously excited too. I wanted him to hear how much I loved what I was doing, and what was being done to me. I wanted to hear his voice and for me to whisper things to him. I wanted to tell him I loved him as I was on my knees in front of a huge cock. It was an incredible experience for me and it was all I could think about for the next several days – fucking amazing!

Ryan told me the next day that listening on the phone the night before actually made him trust me even more.  I’ve since heard someone say that “cheating is a betrayal of trust and cuckolding is an exploration of trust” and I would agree with that 100%. Cuckolding only enhanced our foundation of trust between each other and I think this kind of growth is something that a lot of people are unaware happens in these types of relationships.

Eventually things ended between him and I; Ryan’s work schedule took over his life and he no longer had the time needed for this kind of relationship and I had to move on, but I’m so grateful for him introducing me to this whole lifestyle that I’ve since completely immersed myself in. It really was the perfect beginning to this journey into the cuck world!

 

Venus xo

What the fuck is cuckolding?

Well here it is: my first post about life in this strange world of being a cuckoldress. I use that word ‘strange’, but really it’s not strange at all to me, just strange to the people who don’t understand it. In fact I feel like cuckolding in relationships is just a normal way of expressing your love and adoration of each other in a way that society generally feels is taboo in nature.

So what the fuck is cuckolding anyway? Most people have never heard of the term cuckold and therefore have no idea what that means. It’s no wonder though because so few people talk about it. It’s sometimes labelled as a fetish or a kink – both terms that invoke stereotypical images in your mind of all sorts of perverted and warped sexual scenarios, and that certainly doesn’t help normalize cuckolding in any way and doesn’t help facilitate conversations on the subject.

1a4d6ed6fd273ed5955fe059c4047360I often find myself being asked to define cuckolding, and oh my… I struggle with how to do that in a way that accurately credits this beautiful lifestyle. It’s easy to say cuckolding is a man who enjoys watching his woman have sex with other men, but that doesn’t even come close to encompassing what it is. Cuckolding is different for everyone and there’s a huge spectrum of practices within it, but the main theme of cuckolding for me is that it’s a gift you give each other. The man gives his woman the gift of non-monogamy and incredible sexual experiences with others, and in turn the woman gives her man the gift of being involved in her experiences in some way. It’s a two way compersion street.

I personally love the power imbalance that comes with cuckolding. The woman is admired, cherished, adored, and treated like a queen by her man while he is absolutely faithful to her. He loves making her happy and he enjoys seeing her satisfied. She’s put on a pedestal where she belongs and he makes sure she stays there.

Some cuckolds enjoy a level of humiliation within their relationship and again that varies between couples, some severe cruel humiliation and others less so with more love and respect for the cuck. Personally I have a kind and caring character so I don’t feel comfortable with anything overtly cruel or mean but I can understand how some submissive men may enjoy that dynamic.

Regardless of which definition you feel is more accurate, I’m hoping to use this blog as a means to help people better understand the cuckolding lifestyle, share insight on what it is like to be a cuckoldress, and in doing so helping myself to navigate and understand this amazing and exciting cuck world. Take my word for it, it’s fucking fascinating!

I welcome your respectful comments and feedback anytime of course and I will try to answer your questions as promptly as my busy life will allow.

 

Venus xo